Dear Anon, if I choose to dress sexy, and share my physical charms with people around me, why would I then be offended by admiring glances? How is highlighting my physical body disrespectful of my person? Or make me "slutty" as your comments imply? I have a body (not a great one, but not a bad one either), if someone wants to admire it, have at it. IMO, you should enjoy the view around you, whether it's the landscape, cars, houses, flowers or an attractive person.
Having been athletic and muscular when I was younger, and then ballooning up to nearly 300 lbs while married, and now on the way to fitness and health again (at 40), I find myself in an interesting position. Being married for nearly 20 years, and then widowed, has granted me the strength to pull off the blinders I wore for so long. I have a much healthier view of my body and my sexuality than I have for years.
I have always been as sexually aggressive as most men. Growing up, I frequently restrained myself from enjoying the ultimate act of sharing and pleasure you can have with someone else, for fear of offending societal mores. After I married my husband, things were better, but not all that much. This is not to suggest that I wanted to have sex with anyone other than my husband. I didn’t. I just wanted to have sex more often and be more open about trying different things than he did.
As a result, I have been sexually frustrated most of my life - and turned to food to compensate. Ugh! I was a mess. Now, though, it’s like an epiphany. I don’t know if I’ll remarry (I hope I find someone again), but regardless, I know that I intend to enjoy sex without guilt. Sleeping around doesn’t appeal, but I am not going to pretend that I am sexually neuter either!
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Dear Anon, if I choose to dress sexy, and share my physical charms with people around me, why would I then be offended by admiring glances? How is highlighting my physical body disrespectful of my person? Or make me "slutty" as your comments imply? I have a body (not a great one, but not a bad one either), if someone wants to admire it, have at it. IMO, you should enjoy the view around you, whether it's the landscape, cars, houses, flowers or an attractive person.
Having been athletic and muscular when I was younger, and then ballooning up to nearly 300 lbs while married, and now on the way to fitness and health again (at 40), I find myself in an interesting position. Being married for nearly 20 years, and then widowed, has granted me the strength to pull off the blinders I wore for so long. I have a much healthier view of my body and my sexuality than I have for years.
I have always been as sexually aggressive as most men. Growing up, I frequently restrained myself from enjoying the ultimate act of sharing and pleasure you can have with someone else, for fear of offending societal mores. After I married my husband, things were better, but not all that much. This is not to suggest that I wanted to have sex with anyone other than my husband. I didn’t. I just wanted to have sex more often and be more open about trying different things than he did.
As a result, I have been sexually frustrated most of my life - and turned to food to compensate. Ugh! I was a mess. Now, though, it’s like an epiphany. I don’t know if I’ll remarry (I hope I find someone again), but regardless, I know that I intend to enjoy sex without guilt. Sleeping around doesn’t appeal, but I am not going to pretend that I am sexually neuter either!
July 15, 2009 - 1:09pmThis Comment
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