I liked this article, even tho it was written by a man ;) The part I found most interesting was about what we learn from our mothers and teach to our daughters. My own mother spoke about and displayed her sexuality only very rarely (instead of having 'the talk' she gave me a medical textbook). If we disown the right to teach our girls about sex, all they have to learn from is the media. IDK about you, but I think that's exactly the WRONG way to go about it.
On the flip side, there IS a way to be 'too' promiscuious, and that goes for both men and women. It's not so much what they wear, but the actions they take. There's no denying that there are women who will have sex with anyone with no thought to the affect it could have on themselves and others (same goes for some men of course). Frankly, if a woman is begging, most men give in, regardless of prior commitments, and some women simply lack the common decency to take a step back and weigh their decision. And it must be considered that these women actually do so because of low self-esteem.
So it's a delicate message that needs to be conveyed to our girls: be comfortable in your own skin, with your own desires, but sex is a powerful action that needs to be considered and respected. Just because we think it would be nice to shirk sexual responsibilities the way men love to do, doesn't mean we should. In the end, it comes down to healthy self-esteem and careful consideration.
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I liked this article, even tho it was written by a man ;) The part I found most interesting was about what we learn from our mothers and teach to our daughters. My own mother spoke about and displayed her sexuality only very rarely (instead of having 'the talk' she gave me a medical textbook). If we disown the right to teach our girls about sex, all they have to learn from is the media. IDK about you, but I think that's exactly the WRONG way to go about it.
December 14, 2009 - 11:34amOn the flip side, there IS a way to be 'too' promiscuious, and that goes for both men and women. It's not so much what they wear, but the actions they take. There's no denying that there are women who will have sex with anyone with no thought to the affect it could have on themselves and others (same goes for some men of course). Frankly, if a woman is begging, most men give in, regardless of prior commitments, and some women simply lack the common decency to take a step back and weigh their decision. And it must be considered that these women actually do so because of low self-esteem.
So it's a delicate message that needs to be conveyed to our girls: be comfortable in your own skin, with your own desires, but sex is a powerful action that needs to be considered and respected. Just because we think it would be nice to shirk sexual responsibilities the way men love to do, doesn't mean we should. In the end, it comes down to healthy self-esteem and careful consideration.
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