Please take my advice in that you should "run to your car-don't walk". I feel uniquely qualified to dole out this advice in that I have battle my weight my entire life and have had to deal with issues of not feeling attractive enough due to my weight. I'm 45, very happily married for 18 years but before I got married I was typically 50 pounds over weight. Even with my weight issues I had pretty good self-esteem, enjoyed life, loved to laugh and make others laugh as well. Additionally I did not let my weight get in the way of living and surrounding myself with people who appreciated me for who I was not just solely my weight. Although I was not always the first one asked to dance, I always seem to have a steady stream of boyfriends who were fun and respected and enjoyed being with me. I do remember dating a man who told my friend that my stretch marks bothered him and needless to say that relationship ended quickly after I learned of this. People (men and women) are so much than just their appearance, and should bring other important qualities to the table like: an outstanding sense of humor, intelligence, interesting life experiences to share, easy going, flexible and on and on.
You need to have more faith and believe in yourself. Don't send old pictures of yourself, send current ones and that will help guide you to some one who is much more interesting and not so shallow! If you loose weight, do it for yourself, not any one else. I would suggest you don't move in with him and instead find some one who does not put so much importance on some thing as silly as your weight. One last thought.....just because you are over weight does not mean you are not sexy, or not good in bed. I have seen many over weight women and men who have amazing sex appeal and it's all in the way they carry themselves, as well as what comes out of their mouth, not typically the number on their scales.
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Dear Gemlovestravel:
Please take my advice in that you should "run to your car-don't walk". I feel uniquely qualified to dole out this advice in that I have battle my weight my entire life and have had to deal with issues of not feeling attractive enough due to my weight. I'm 45, very happily married for 18 years but before I got married I was typically 50 pounds over weight. Even with my weight issues I had pretty good self-esteem, enjoyed life, loved to laugh and make others laugh as well. Additionally I did not let my weight get in the way of living and surrounding myself with people who appreciated me for who I was not just solely my weight. Although I was not always the first one asked to dance, I always seem to have a steady stream of boyfriends who were fun and respected and enjoyed being with me. I do remember dating a man who told my friend that my stretch marks bothered him and needless to say that relationship ended quickly after I learned of this. People (men and women) are so much than just their appearance, and should bring other important qualities to the table like: an outstanding sense of humor, intelligence, interesting life experiences to share, easy going, flexible and on and on.
You need to have more faith and believe in yourself. Don't send old pictures of yourself, send current ones and that will help guide you to some one who is much more interesting and not so shallow! If you loose weight, do it for yourself, not any one else. I would suggest you don't move in with him and instead find some one who does not put so much importance on some thing as silly as your weight. One last thought.....just because you are over weight does not mean you are not sexy, or not good in bed. I have seen many over weight women and men who have amazing sex appeal and it's all in the way they carry themselves, as well as what comes out of their mouth, not typically the number on their scales.
Much Success,
Kelley
June 14, 2009 - 4:17pmThis Comment
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