Hi,
Are you OK? You sound like you are very sad, since you said "all of this writing has made you realize your insecurities about your weight...make you clingy...".
Do you think maybe, perhaps, some of your insecurities are also making you not just clingy, but feeling like you are lucky to find a man who loves MOST of you, and that you're worried you can't find a man who loves ALL of you?
Have you considered talking with a therapist about this? I really don't think it's sweet that he calls you to wake you up to go exercise, and that's he's proud of you when you workout even though you don't feel well. Is he proud of you for other accomplishments, too, and does he tell you this often?
Since there is a weight issue between you two, I would at least tell him that he has made it clear that he can't be attracted to you while you are overweight, and that your weight is no longer "on the table" for discussion. You can assure him, once, that you are working on becoming healthier, and that there are other things to talk about (more exciting things, hopefully!).
How much weight does he want you to lose...do you have a goal so you know when you have reached it in his eyes? How much weight do you want to lose? Are you seeing a nutritionist, personal trainer, or other professional to help?
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Hi,
Are you OK? You sound like you are very sad, since you said "all of this writing has made you realize your insecurities about your weight...make you clingy...".
Do you think maybe, perhaps, some of your insecurities are also making you not just clingy, but feeling like you are lucky to find a man who loves MOST of you, and that you're worried you can't find a man who loves ALL of you?
Have you considered talking with a therapist about this? I really don't think it's sweet that he calls you to wake you up to go exercise, and that's he's proud of you when you workout even though you don't feel well. Is he proud of you for other accomplishments, too, and does he tell you this often?
Since there is a weight issue between you two, I would at least tell him that he has made it clear that he can't be attracted to you while you are overweight, and that your weight is no longer "on the table" for discussion. You can assure him, once, that you are working on becoming healthier, and that there are other things to talk about (more exciting things, hopefully!).
How much weight does he want you to lose...do you have a goal so you know when you have reached it in his eyes? How much weight do you want to lose? Are you seeing a nutritionist, personal trainer, or other professional to help?
June 14, 2009 - 6:55pmThis Comment
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