I say, "Right on!" to the first Anonymous.
I was recently just thrown into a similar situation. My boyfriend of a year and two months admitted to me that he wasn't attracted to my body, and would like it if I could lose some weight. I realize that I can use improvement and I've always wanted to do this for myself but could never keep up considering my love for food. All I do is go to school three days a week and spend some extra time and home, sit around, and eat when I'm bored. Very unhealthy, I know; but hearing him saying that made me cry and feel inadequate, despite how true it was. I asked if that was the only thing that he felt unattracted to, and he said yes; claiming he fell in love with my personality, not my body. I know this for a fact considering I'm his first girlfriend and he is a very, very handsome man who gets hit on and flirted with practically everyday. He's only had a few sexual encounters before me, all of which he was under the influence of illegal substances. People tell him he should a be a model constantly and I feel physically imperfect being with him. He loves my face and has claimed I have a genuinely beautiful face, but the flesh around won't allow its full potential to blossom.. (I have a chubby face so I call myself "moonpie-faced") Despite all this he loves every aspect of my being, and he knows that I've been insecure about my body for quite some time now and he just wants to encourage me and have a healthy, happy, confident girlfriend. So whatever way you look at it, hunny; your boy isn't being a "jerk" considering that it is OBVIOUS he loves you for all the right reasons. If you were overweight before he got with you and he was only after physical attraction then trust me, you would not be with him now. He saw something more in you, despite your apperance, but now that he's more involved in your life, he cares enough to share with you that he wants you to improve for him and yourself.
Hope this helps. :)
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I say, "Right on!" to the first Anonymous.
April 23, 2010 - 10:10amI was recently just thrown into a similar situation. My boyfriend of a year and two months admitted to me that he wasn't attracted to my body, and would like it if I could lose some weight. I realize that I can use improvement and I've always wanted to do this for myself but could never keep up considering my love for food. All I do is go to school three days a week and spend some extra time and home, sit around, and eat when I'm bored. Very unhealthy, I know; but hearing him saying that made me cry and feel inadequate, despite how true it was. I asked if that was the only thing that he felt unattracted to, and he said yes; claiming he fell in love with my personality, not my body. I know this for a fact considering I'm his first girlfriend and he is a very, very handsome man who gets hit on and flirted with practically everyday. He's only had a few sexual encounters before me, all of which he was under the influence of illegal substances. People tell him he should a be a model constantly and I feel physically imperfect being with him. He loves my face and has claimed I have a genuinely beautiful face, but the flesh around won't allow its full potential to blossom.. (I have a chubby face so I call myself "moonpie-faced") Despite all this he loves every aspect of my being, and he knows that I've been insecure about my body for quite some time now and he just wants to encourage me and have a healthy, happy, confident girlfriend. So whatever way you look at it, hunny; your boy isn't being a "jerk" considering that it is OBVIOUS he loves you for all the right reasons. If you were overweight before he got with you and he was only after physical attraction then trust me, you would not be with him now. He saw something more in you, despite your apperance, but now that he's more involved in your life, he cares enough to share with you that he wants you to improve for him and yourself.
Hope this helps. :)
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