Anon, you've gotten some pretty strong and strenuous opinions here ... how are you feeling? Does this give you the inspiration to move down a certain path? Can we support your efforts here to take care of yourself?
This is a caring, responsive community, and everyone who responded sees some red flags for you. Has it made you think differently about your side of things, and that it's ok for you to expect more than you're getting?
I hope so, and I hope you feel supported. Please write back and update us if you can.