This is a good question. I think it is a matter of self-esteem. If you don't have good self-esteem it is easier to criticize and be hard on yourself. This begs the question, "If I do have good self-esteem, then why would I have negative self-talk?"
Maybe you wouldn't! But if you still do, then a) maybe your self-esteem isn't what you think it is, or b) you have gotten into a bad habit.
It is sort of a viscious circle - the negative self-talk, I believe, can lower your self-esteem just as it would if it were coming from someone else. After all, we hear what we say and don't seem to be able to distinguish our own internal voice from the voices of others.
By the same token, I believe that positive self-talk can raise your self-esteem and for the same reason.
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Hi Diane
This is a good question. I think it is a matter of self-esteem. If you don't have good self-esteem it is easier to criticize and be hard on yourself. This begs the question, "If I do have good self-esteem, then why would I have negative self-talk?"
Maybe you wouldn't! But if you still do, then a) maybe your self-esteem isn't what you think it is, or b) you have gotten into a bad habit.
It is sort of a viscious circle - the negative self-talk, I believe, can lower your self-esteem just as it would if it were coming from someone else. After all, we hear what we say and don't seem to be able to distinguish our own internal voice from the voices of others.
By the same token, I believe that positive self-talk can raise your self-esteem and for the same reason.
July 6, 2009 - 8:58amThis Comment
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