I'm so sorry that you are fearful about sex. Did you read Susan's and Alison's posts, above?
Like Susan said, the first time usually doesn't hurt like you are thinking it will. The actual act of intercourse for the first time just tears the tissue called the hymen, which is a very thin sheet of tissue -- not even as thick as skin. So there may be a small sting, but it is not even as painful as a cut to your finger or a bad scrape on your knee. And it is over very quickly. Nothing else hurts. But, like Susan said, it is just a new feeling because it's something you've not experienced before.
Can you take some of the above suggestions, like having a glass of wine and a warm bath first? Anything to take the stress away. By being so tense, you are making it seem much worse than it is. Relaxation and depending on your partner to be gentle are the keys.
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Anon,
I'm so sorry that you are fearful about sex. Did you read Susan's and Alison's posts, above?
Like Susan said, the first time usually doesn't hurt like you are thinking it will. The actual act of intercourse for the first time just tears the tissue called the hymen, which is a very thin sheet of tissue -- not even as thick as skin. So there may be a small sting, but it is not even as painful as a cut to your finger or a bad scrape on your knee. And it is over very quickly. Nothing else hurts. But, like Susan said, it is just a new feeling because it's something you've not experienced before.
Can you take some of the above suggestions, like having a glass of wine and a warm bath first? Anything to take the stress away. By being so tense, you are making it seem much worse than it is. Relaxation and depending on your partner to be gentle are the keys.
Does this help a little?
February 11, 2010 - 8:49amThis Comment
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