Thank you all for posting. I didn't realize how many people fear sex but Susan, Alison, and Diane's posts are very helpful.
I did have a tiny bit of fear my first time, which is completely normal, but nothing to the point where it would stop me. The way I figured, as long as I got the first time out of the way, the rest would be pleasurable. To say the truth, it was a bit uncomfortable at first, but if you don't stop it from happening and let it take its natural course, it gets better. Doing the "in and out--stop--ok, go--wait, maybe not"---is not going to help get rid of the fear or the discomfort.
This irrational fear that some people have about sex is likely brought upon by people that love us such as our parents or family members telling us it hurts because they don't want us to have sex or get pregnant at a very young age. I can only say I hope my daughter has this fear, at least till she's 18 :)
I definitely think relaxing and forgetting about it as much as you can is the key. It is VERY possible to forget about "pain" when you are in the moment with your partner but not if PAIN is all you're thinking about to begin with.
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Thank you all for posting. I didn't realize how many people fear sex but Susan, Alison, and Diane's posts are very helpful.
I did have a tiny bit of fear my first time, which is completely normal, but nothing to the point where it would stop me. The way I figured, as long as I got the first time out of the way, the rest would be pleasurable. To say the truth, it was a bit uncomfortable at first, but if you don't stop it from happening and let it take its natural course, it gets better. Doing the "in and out--stop--ok, go--wait, maybe not"---is not going to help get rid of the fear or the discomfort.
This irrational fear that some people have about sex is likely brought upon by people that love us such as our parents or family members telling us it hurts because they don't want us to have sex or get pregnant at a very young age. I can only say I hope my daughter has this fear, at least till she's 18 :)
I definitely think relaxing and forgetting about it as much as you can is the key. It is VERY possible to forget about "pain" when you are in the moment with your partner but not if PAIN is all you're thinking about to begin with.
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