Thank you all!
I would like to share my experience. Im married and i face the same fear of sex. I tried couple of times but I stopped my husband each time. I cried and even get traumatised. I feel fear has overcome over me!
Now, answering your questions:
Have you ever been sexually assaulted or had an unwanted sexual or physical experience or trauma? Never
- Do you feel that you can trust your current boyfriend, and that he will listen to you if you want to slow down, or stop, being physically intimate, at any point? My husband is a very good listener, he listens, he discusses that with me and he is very understanding and patient.
- Do you feel that you are able to physically respond appropriately, as part of the sexual response (meaning: do you feel "wet" and that your vagina is lubricated?). I feel wet and my vagina is lubricated but when it comes to insertion, I cant continue..
- Do you have any underlying medical conditions that may be hindering physical enjoyment, and/or causing pain? Have you been evaluated by a Gynecologist? I've been to the gynaecologist and she told me that I have a very tight hymen and this is the reason behind the strength of pain, she even explained to me that i have to suffer the first times.
Im sharing my experience as i thought im the only woman who is fearful of sex..Im glad to have this space where i can feel I share my pain and suffering of not having sex and not enjoying it with you ladies.. thanks!
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Thank you all!
January 23, 2011 - 2:38amI would like to share my experience. Im married and i face the same fear of sex. I tried couple of times but I stopped my husband each time. I cried and even get traumatised. I feel fear has overcome over me!
Now, answering your questions:
Have you ever been sexually assaulted or had an unwanted sexual or physical experience or trauma? Never
- Do you feel that you can trust your current boyfriend, and that he will listen to you if you want to slow down, or stop, being physically intimate, at any point? My husband is a very good listener, he listens, he discusses that with me and he is very understanding and patient.
- Do you feel that you are able to physically respond appropriately, as part of the sexual response (meaning: do you feel "wet" and that your vagina is lubricated?). I feel wet and my vagina is lubricated but when it comes to insertion, I cant continue..
- Do you have any underlying medical conditions that may be hindering physical enjoyment, and/or causing pain? Have you been evaluated by a Gynecologist? I've been to the gynaecologist and she told me that I have a very tight hymen and this is the reason behind the strength of pain, she even explained to me that i have to suffer the first times.
Im sharing my experience as i thought im the only woman who is fearful of sex..Im glad to have this space where i can feel I share my pain and suffering of not having sex and not enjoying it with you ladies.. thanks!
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