I am going through something so similar. I have been seeing someone for almost 2 years in February. We "jumped" into the relationship feet first and have children involved as well. We both have children from other relationships and that is a factor in all this. We had amazing sex when we first got together and it slowly dwindled. I gently confronted him on the issue, he said it was him and not me, he actually went to see a doctor and the doc said his testosterone is somewhat low. He just lost his father a few months ago and is depressed about that. I am doing what I can to help him through all this, although ever since he turned 40 his sex drive has decreased substantially. I am very sexual for a female and comparing myself to others I've talked to and read about. I am so frustrated because I miss the passion and connection we once had but I am torn because I too am getting my heart right with God and want to do what's right. I had told him no more sex unless marriage, but I struggle with not having sex myself! The sex was already an area of struggle and issue, and now that I've got God in the picture again, it's even more difficult, because the sexual issues can't be dealt with anyhow until marriage. I just simply want he and I to be happy in the area of God and sex and it seems as though it can't be until later....
What do you do when you meet someone, you think you have it figured out that you've finally met your match sexually and then this person turns out to be something that doesn't fit in that area after all? Most everything else is good with us, but the sex is a big issue for me. He could go with or without the sex he said. I can't go without sex for too long and I have an enormous need for sexual intimacy in my life along with spiritual intimacy with God.
I need help to clarify what and how I am going to handle all this. I am so frustrated...
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I am going through something so similar. I have been seeing someone for almost 2 years in February. We "jumped" into the relationship feet first and have children involved as well. We both have children from other relationships and that is a factor in all this. We had amazing sex when we first got together and it slowly dwindled. I gently confronted him on the issue, he said it was him and not me, he actually went to see a doctor and the doc said his testosterone is somewhat low. He just lost his father a few months ago and is depressed about that. I am doing what I can to help him through all this, although ever since he turned 40 his sex drive has decreased substantially. I am very sexual for a female and comparing myself to others I've talked to and read about. I am so frustrated because I miss the passion and connection we once had but I am torn because I too am getting my heart right with God and want to do what's right. I had told him no more sex unless marriage, but I struggle with not having sex myself! The sex was already an area of struggle and issue, and now that I've got God in the picture again, it's even more difficult, because the sexual issues can't be dealt with anyhow until marriage. I just simply want he and I to be happy in the area of God and sex and it seems as though it can't be until later....
What do you do when you meet someone, you think you have it figured out that you've finally met your match sexually and then this person turns out to be something that doesn't fit in that area after all? Most everything else is good with us, but the sex is a big issue for me. He could go with or without the sex he said. I can't go without sex for too long and I have an enormous need for sexual intimacy in my life along with spiritual intimacy with God.
I need help to clarify what and how I am going to handle all this. I am so frustrated...
Thank you for your help.
November 24, 2010 - 1:28pmThis Comment
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