That's wonderful that he helped create a catalyst for you to change. Take credit for your efforts... ok?
I had a boyfriend once that I used to credit my change in lifestyle and the improvement of it overall. So many things happened and I realized one day... when thinking about it. People don't make choices that they aren't actively choosing and if they don't want to make a change, it inevitably will not happen!!
I now know that he provided the open door but I had to walk through it and actively make the conscious decision to put those changes into play... "I" had to do the work! So as much as he was influential in providing you the support and/or tools to make the change. YOU DID IT!! ok...
I tell you this because you must take credit for your hard work, otherwise you end up allowing those changes to put you in the position of being in debit to someone out of gratefulness. Does that make sense?
I know it sounds like a lecture but honestly... I am teaching you a lesson I had to learn. Not in your case, but in mine... it had me stay with him when I should have left. He was MEAN persay, but more emotionally damagine... the roller coaster relationship. Great, bad, good, horrible... up and down and up and down.
So while you guys are great, like I said, you never know what the future holds and you have to believe in you so you can be strong even if you did have to be alone.
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That's wonderful that he helped create a catalyst for you to change. Take credit for your efforts... ok?
I had a boyfriend once that I used to credit my change in lifestyle and the improvement of it overall. So many things happened and I realized one day... when thinking about it. People don't make choices that they aren't actively choosing and if they don't want to make a change, it inevitably will not happen!!
I now know that he provided the open door but I had to walk through it and actively make the conscious decision to put those changes into play... "I" had to do the work! So as much as he was influential in providing you the support and/or tools to make the change. YOU DID IT!! ok...
I tell you this because you must take credit for your hard work, otherwise you end up allowing those changes to put you in the position of being in debit to someone out of gratefulness. Does that make sense?
I know it sounds like a lecture but honestly... I am teaching you a lesson I had to learn. Not in your case, but in mine... it had me stay with him when I should have left. He was MEAN persay, but more emotionally damagine... the roller coaster relationship. Great, bad, good, horrible... up and down and up and down.
So while you guys are great, like I said, you never know what the future holds and you have to believe in you so you can be strong even if you did have to be alone.
Hope that all makes sense...
July 21, 2009 - 8:01amThis Comment
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