Ladies I think I finally know whats up. My boyfriend and I have always loved each other very much. We have been together 2 years now. We have built a home and life together. We want to grow old and spend forever with each other but one thing is missing from our relationship, sex. I heard all the excuses.. it isn't you it's me, I just dont ever think about sex.. so on. Its hard to be so in love with someone that doesnt want you that way. Finally things came to a head when I caught him cheating on me. Since things were over I had to know why. I was told that he never had that sexual attraction to me no matter how badly he tried. He thinks I am beautiful outside and in but the spark was just not there. He told me for years he lived a lie and that all the times we had sex it was because he wanted to make me happy. He said I deserve to be happy and he knew that meant sexually too so he gave me what I wanted regardless of his own feelings. It just became to much for him after a while and could no longer live that lie. The other women reminded him of what that attraction felt like and what its like to desire another again. Now we are both sad and hurt because we have a child together and still love each other very much but he won't live a lie anymore and I cant live knowing he may never look at me with desire Rowan me the way I want him. I have learned that love come in many different forms and its takes all of them to sustain a lasting relationship. I hope your outcome is better than mine but from what I have read, things dont look promising. I know we have to end things. It just hurts so much and an innocent child will lose one of his parents all because one aspect of being in love is not present. Good luck
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Ladies I think I finally know whats up. My boyfriend and I have always loved each other very much. We have been together 2 years now. We have built a home and life together. We want to grow old and spend forever with each other but one thing is missing from our relationship, sex. I heard all the excuses.. it isn't you it's me, I just dont ever think about sex.. so on. Its hard to be so in love with someone that doesnt want you that way. Finally things came to a head when I caught him cheating on me. Since things were over I had to know why. I was told that he never had that sexual attraction to me no matter how badly he tried. He thinks I am beautiful outside and in but the spark was just not there. He told me for years he lived a lie and that all the times we had sex it was because he wanted to make me happy. He said I deserve to be happy and he knew that meant sexually too so he gave me what I wanted regardless of his own feelings. It just became to much for him after a while and could no longer live that lie. The other women reminded him of what that attraction felt like and what its like to desire another again. Now we are both sad and hurt because we have a child together and still love each other very much but he won't live a lie anymore and I cant live knowing he may never look at me with desire Rowan me the way I want him. I have learned that love come in many different forms and its takes all of them to sustain a lasting relationship. I hope your outcome is better than mine but from what I have read, things dont look promising. I know we have to end things. It just hurts so much and an innocent child will lose one of his parents all because one aspect of being in love is not present. Good luck
July 21, 2015 - 9:03pmThis Comment
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