I don't know the background of this unconventional mom, but I think the issue here isn't if she was too old to have kids or not. I consider the real problem the fact that she apparently took that decision without a "plan B" for the children in case something happens. If she were a woman with some sort of economical security, I wouldn’t care about her age. But if she has to SELL HER HOME to get the procedure done! I understand she may have had a really big need in fulfilling her life as a mom, I think that's the basic reason way anybody has kids, at any age... Looking it that way, everybody who reproduces is being selfish in one way or another.
Anyways, this woman in particular, doesn't sound to me that she took that decision with all the marbles in her head. But, who does? Making babies nowadays is a privilege only the wealthy and the unconscious have.
I’ll use myself as an example. Today, I’m 26 years old. I’m still finishing school and I intend to have a career and grow professionally. I also want to travel and have the possibility of getting to know other countries and cultures. I still haven’t met the man I would want to have children with. So… what are my options? If I don’t get the chance of settling down with a man and have children in my thirties, does that mean I have to give up motherhood? I certainly don’t want children if I can’t give them the security they deserve. But if I could in my 40’s or 50’s (or 60’s?) because I already succeeded economically and there was a way, I would consider it seriously. The main issue here is if she had the kids responsibly or not. Not her age. And her death was just plain bad luck; she didn’t know she had her days counted when she conceived her children. Who knows? Maybe if she wouldn’t have cancer, she would’ve been a great mom!
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I don't know the background of this unconventional mom, but I think the issue here isn't if she was too old to have kids or not. I consider the real problem the fact that she apparently took that decision without a "plan B" for the children in case something happens. If she were a woman with some sort of economical security, I wouldn’t care about her age. But if she has to SELL HER HOME to get the procedure done! I understand she may have had a really big need in fulfilling her life as a mom, I think that's the basic reason way anybody has kids, at any age... Looking it that way, everybody who reproduces is being selfish in one way or another.
August 8, 2009 - 7:49amAnyways, this woman in particular, doesn't sound to me that she took that decision with all the marbles in her head. But, who does? Making babies nowadays is a privilege only the wealthy and the unconscious have.
I’ll use myself as an example. Today, I’m 26 years old. I’m still finishing school and I intend to have a career and grow professionally. I also want to travel and have the possibility of getting to know other countries and cultures. I still haven’t met the man I would want to have children with. So… what are my options? If I don’t get the chance of settling down with a man and have children in my thirties, does that mean I have to give up motherhood? I certainly don’t want children if I can’t give them the security they deserve. But if I could in my 40’s or 50’s (or 60’s?) because I already succeeded economically and there was a way, I would consider it seriously. The main issue here is if she had the kids responsibly or not. Not her age. And her death was just plain bad luck; she didn’t know she had her days counted when she conceived her children. Who knows? Maybe if she wouldn’t have cancer, she would’ve been a great mom!
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