Wow!! Great information Alison.
There often seems to be one person in the relationship who may want sex or have a higher sex drive than their partner. Then, sometimes it can switch and the other partner becomes more sexual and longing for sex more so than their respective mate.
Some men and or women just want more intimacy and need to feel wanted and needed. Others feel fulfilled in other ways and don't have the same sexual desire their partner does. Some men and women crave it, love it, and can even become dependent upon it.
One of the most important things is to be able to talk about it. Get the cards out on the table. You need to ask him what's going on with him. Maybe, just maybe, he'd like for you to do something he's not been able to tell you he'd like. He may feel performance anxiety because you crave sex more then he does. It may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. If that's the case, you have to be able to talk about your sex life. You have to communicate to him what you like and what you don't. He has to be able to do the same. Now, that's intimacy. It should be so simple right...easy to write such advice when I'm not the one having the conversation:) But you should tell him in a loving way, you crave him and want him all the time. You would love it if he was more sexual and what can you do to help make that happen. You can do this in a loving, giving and communicative way. The two toughest topics for couples to discuss are money and sex. And yet both of these things can help with intimacy. Interesting isn't it? You have to be able to communicate the things you like and the things you don't like. I'm still going to ask Dr. Klein for you to see what he thinks. He is the expert after all. Stay tuned!! Please tell us what you think so far. Is any of this information helpful? Eye opening or are we totally off base? Don't be afraid to tell us what you think. EmpowHer's a safe enviornment where you can communicate your feelings openly and freely.
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Wow!! Great information Alison.
There often seems to be one person in the relationship who may want sex or have a higher sex drive than their partner. Then, sometimes it can switch and the other partner becomes more sexual and longing for sex more so than their respective mate.
Some men and or women just want more intimacy and need to feel wanted and needed. Others feel fulfilled in other ways and don't have the same sexual desire their partner does. Some men and women crave it, love it, and can even become dependent upon it.
One of the most important things is to be able to talk about it. Get the cards out on the table. You need to ask him what's going on with him. Maybe, just maybe, he'd like for you to do something he's not been able to tell you he'd like. He may feel performance anxiety because you crave sex more then he does. It may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. If that's the case, you have to be able to talk about your sex life. You have to communicate to him what you like and what you don't. He has to be able to do the same. Now, that's intimacy. It should be so simple right...easy to write such advice when I'm not the one having the conversation:) But you should tell him in a loving way, you crave him and want him all the time. You would love it if he was more sexual and what can you do to help make that happen. You can do this in a loving, giving and communicative way. The two toughest topics for couples to discuss are money and sex. And yet both of these things can help with intimacy. Interesting isn't it? You have to be able to communicate the things you like and the things you don't like. I'm still going to ask Dr. Klein for you to see what he thinks. He is the expert after all. Stay tuned!! Please tell us what you think so far. Is any of this information helpful? Eye opening or are we totally off base? Don't be afraid to tell us what you think. EmpowHer's a safe enviornment where you can communicate your feelings openly and freely.
August 2, 2009 - 7:52pmM
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