It may not be that you have vaginismus. Being that it was your first time, you may have been very nervous and tense, therefore making it difficult for him to get inside. If you were not wet enough that's also reason to believe that it may have been near impossible for him to get in as well.
On your second attempt, try to relax, foreplay before actually trying to have penetration may help, and guide him inside of you. Keep in mind that a finger is not the same as a penis. While it may have been easy for him to put his finger inside you, you are still a virgin and need to be somewhat "determined" to get it inside at all while still being gentle enough not to hurt you in the process-- you will feel pain your first time, maybe even your second and that is normal.
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Dear Anon,
It may not be that you have vaginismus. Being that it was your first time, you may have been very nervous and tense, therefore making it difficult for him to get inside. If you were not wet enough that's also reason to believe that it may have been near impossible for him to get in as well.
On your second attempt, try to relax, foreplay before actually trying to have penetration may help, and guide him inside of you. Keep in mind that a finger is not the same as a penis. While it may have been easy for him to put his finger inside you, you are still a virgin and need to be somewhat "determined" to get it inside at all while still being gentle enough not to hurt you in the process-- you will feel pain your first time, maybe even your second and that is normal.
Hope this helps
August 6, 2009 - 5:32amThis Comment
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