Hey, definitely do not worry about it at all, you just need to get used to each other on a bit of a deeper level (beyond words).... I am guessing he just has a little bit of sexual a.d.d...... Sex is a completely different sport than maintaining a friendship... It's very very very mental... I have been in situations where I have been extremely aroused to the point of climax, but my body would not co-operate. This is usually due to a busy mind... Thoughts begin to swirl around in my head and I begin to think instead of feel. I become overly self-conscious about whether she's enjoying it, what I can do to make it better... and I usually go soft because of the lack of sexual focus and it then just starts a chain reaction... Oh my god, she's going to think I'm not attracted to her... and I am totally screwed until I can regain my sexual focus and just learn to tune out the voice in my head and just do whatever feeeeels good. I recommend just taking it very slow... Stare into each others eyes... You will see that you can not lie to each other in silence when you are staring into one anothers eyes.... lots of kissing... kissing helps you feel the other person out, you can tell if they are focused and aroused within the first second of a kiss.... definitely don't put pressure on him to cum..... you must allow beauty to happen, the second you try to force beauty to happen is the second it will escape you...... and know that no matter what you are soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo beautiful... don't ask him if its because he is not attracted to you or accuse him of being homo... as that could sexually traumatize him for life......... if all else fails........ viagara, porn and ecstacy...
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Hey, definitely do not worry about it at all, you just need to get used to each other on a bit of a deeper level (beyond words).... I am guessing he just has a little bit of sexual a.d.d...... Sex is a completely different sport than maintaining a friendship... It's very very very mental... I have been in situations where I have been extremely aroused to the point of climax, but my body would not co-operate. This is usually due to a busy mind... Thoughts begin to swirl around in my head and I begin to think instead of feel. I become overly self-conscious about whether she's enjoying it, what I can do to make it better... and I usually go soft because of the lack of sexual focus and it then just starts a chain reaction... Oh my god, she's going to think I'm not attracted to her... and I am totally screwed until I can regain my sexual focus and just learn to tune out the voice in my head and just do whatever feeeeels good. I recommend just taking it very slow... Stare into each others eyes... You will see that you can not lie to each other in silence when you are staring into one anothers eyes.... lots of kissing... kissing helps you feel the other person out, you can tell if they are focused and aroused within the first second of a kiss.... definitely don't put pressure on him to cum..... you must allow beauty to happen, the second you try to force beauty to happen is the second it will escape you...... and know that no matter what you are soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo beautiful... don't ask him if its because he is not attracted to you or accuse him of being homo... as that could sexually traumatize him for life......... if all else fails........ viagara, porn and ecstacy...
stay lovin' stay true.
September 8, 2009 - 11:48amThis Comment
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