I am very sorry that you are going through this at the moment. Honestly, I think you know what to do, are you afraid of leaving him? Do you depend on him for income?
There should be no reason, no matter what or who it is, why he should have A. Lived a double life for 3 years, and B. Now ask you to participate (or play along) with HIS mistake. I am having a hard time swallowing the "I don't want to hurt her feelings" excuse. There is something more to why he wants to now keep YOU a secret.
The decision is entirely up to you, I personally wouldn't stay with him for a minute longer. After this incident you will have lost trust. From now on you will question everything he does-- from golf, to appointments, to lunches, to even going to work at all. Respect is lost in this situation because although you may still feel like you love him do you really want to marry, love, and cherish a person who didn't think twice about cheating for 3 years? It's a tough choice. Ultimately, if you still trust him and still respect him for who he is-- then kudos to you because I couldn't do it. I think, for me, the betrayal is something you can't fix. Financial problems you can fix but a persons chosen lifestyle is difficult to.
Do you have a good support network? Any friends? Family members?
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Hi Kitty,
I am very sorry that you are going through this at the moment. Honestly, I think you know what to do, are you afraid of leaving him? Do you depend on him for income?
There should be no reason, no matter what or who it is, why he should have A. Lived a double life for 3 years, and B. Now ask you to participate (or play along) with HIS mistake. I am having a hard time swallowing the "I don't want to hurt her feelings" excuse. There is something more to why he wants to now keep YOU a secret.
The decision is entirely up to you, I personally wouldn't stay with him for a minute longer. After this incident you will have lost trust. From now on you will question everything he does-- from golf, to appointments, to lunches, to even going to work at all. Respect is lost in this situation because although you may still feel like you love him do you really want to marry, love, and cherish a person who didn't think twice about cheating for 3 years? It's a tough choice. Ultimately, if you still trust him and still respect him for who he is-- then kudos to you because I couldn't do it. I think, for me, the betrayal is something you can't fix. Financial problems you can fix but a persons chosen lifestyle is difficult to.
Do you have a good support network? Any friends? Family members?
Good Luck, please keep us updated.
August 20, 2009 - 5:47amThis Comment
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