I have this theory that when you say yes to others, you say no to yourself. You have to evaluate how much you need to get done each day and then if you have any left over you give to others. Your right Tina women do tend to give to others more to themselves and it always catches up with you. I always use the example of when you are on an airplane you are advised to get your self oxygen first then help those around you. If you can breathe, then you can help others, if you try to help others without getting your oxygen first, you will lose your breathe and will be unable to help anybody including yourself.
Dr. Jennifer Lagrotte, DMFT