Just to echo what Susan said-- it's not your place to decide what is okay for her to do with her romantic life. If she puts you in an awkward situation by asking you "what do you think?' Just say something that will free you from having to elaborate too much on the question. "Do whatever makes you happy and what you think is best for you". That way she knows that she can count on you as a friend for support but that you are not judging her or turning your back on her.
It's important for us as women to be validated by the closest people in our lives-- that being you in her case. So, although you are not cheering her on to continue a relationship outside of her own, you are also not frowning down upon her actions.
Good luck to you and your friend. I hope she finds the happiness she deserves.
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Just to echo what Susan said-- it's not your place to decide what is okay for her to do with her romantic life. If she puts you in an awkward situation by asking you "what do you think?' Just say something that will free you from having to elaborate too much on the question. "Do whatever makes you happy and what you think is best for you". That way she knows that she can count on you as a friend for support but that you are not judging her or turning your back on her.
It's important for us as women to be validated by the closest people in our lives-- that being you in her case. So, although you are not cheering her on to continue a relationship outside of her own, you are also not frowning down upon her actions.
Good luck to you and your friend. I hope she finds the happiness she deserves.
August 25, 2009 - 5:59amThis Comment
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