The best advice I can give you is to approach your boyfriend at a time when neither of you is thinking about sex and have a serious chat with him. Boys will be boys and yes he may be turned off when you are the one making the moves but who's to say you don't get turned off by his behavior about sex being only when he wants it?
Is there maybe an underlying reason to why he is "turned off" when you want it? Perhaps the solution lies within getting help in understanding that wanting sex is not only a man's need but women want it too. It seems as though he may have a misconception about women and sex. Sex= 2 people not just one.
It's important to understand and respect each other's feelings especially when it is something such as sex. Retaliating by not having sex with him when he wants it will only dampen your relationship further than it already is. Talk with him, see if he is willing to understand your perspective or get a professional to help.
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Melanie,
The best advice I can give you is to approach your boyfriend at a time when neither of you is thinking about sex and have a serious chat with him. Boys will be boys and yes he may be turned off when you are the one making the moves but who's to say you don't get turned off by his behavior about sex being only when he wants it?
Is there maybe an underlying reason to why he is "turned off" when you want it? Perhaps the solution lies within getting help in understanding that wanting sex is not only a man's need but women want it too. It seems as though he may have a misconception about women and sex. Sex= 2 people not just one.
It's important to understand and respect each other's feelings especially when it is something such as sex. Retaliating by not having sex with him when he wants it will only dampen your relationship further than it already is. Talk with him, see if he is willing to understand your perspective or get a professional to help.
Good Luck!
August 25, 2009 - 6:21pmThis Comment
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