Anon - It might help to think about relativity. There is a huge difference between someone who's five years old and someone who's 10. There is far less of a difference in people in their 20's. And as we get older there are even less differences. Many happy couples have 10, 15, 20 and even 30+ year age differences.
Age is relative to how we feel about it. Your boyfriend has said he does not have an issue and you've indicated that this is really your problem and concern. If you are seriously worried about this then it would be advisable to seek professional help from a trained counselor who can help you understand your fears and make your own choice on whether you are going to learn to live with this difference or continue to make it your own personal issue.
It might also help to focus on learning ways to build a good relationship without focusing so much on age. There have to be good reasons why the two of you have been together for the past eight months, and surely there are aspects of your relationship that you can grow and develop to strengthen what you have. Focusing solely on what's wrong isn't the way to build a stronger relationship.
We have a lot of information that can help you in our Sex & Relationships section: https://www.empowher.com/relationships-family/sex-relationships
Good luck to you! Pat
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Anon - It might help to think about relativity. There is a huge difference between someone who's five years old and someone who's 10. There is far less of a difference in people in their 20's. And as we get older there are even less differences. Many happy couples have 10, 15, 20 and even 30+ year age differences.
Age is relative to how we feel about it. Your boyfriend has said he does not have an issue and you've indicated that this is really your problem and concern. If you are seriously worried about this then it would be advisable to seek professional help from a trained counselor who can help you understand your fears and make your own choice on whether you are going to learn to live with this difference or continue to make it your own personal issue.
It might also help to focus on learning ways to build a good relationship without focusing so much on age. There have to be good reasons why the two of you have been together for the past eight months, and surely there are aspects of your relationship that you can grow and develop to strengthen what you have. Focusing solely on what's wrong isn't the way to build a stronger relationship.
We have a lot of information that can help you in our Sex & Relationships section: https://www.empowher.com/relationships-family/sex-relationships
September 2, 2010 - 5:42pmGood luck to you! Pat
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