What the fuck is a "boyfri?" Sorry but after reading the conversation, it seems like you are sort of flaunting the fact that you have an older "boyfri" for these ladies who are feeling a little insecure about being with younger men. Who we may fear (in our little secret place that will always wonder and worry,) that our dear boyfriends will someday look for a much younger girl.
This post just reminded me of someone saying, (using your best valley girl voice,) "like, oh my god. You are like, so lucky, you aren't as pretty as I am. No one EVER takes me SRS. I know I'm like so cute and all, and have a RLY good body, but like, you're so lucky you're kinda fat and have some zits...you're probly rly good at math "
Oh well, you probably meant no harm, and that's probably just me and my insecurity being an ass, but maybe I speak for more than just me in what I heard there.
Ladies, this society we live in makes us feel less worthy and attractive as we get older. In the past I had always viewed myself as the "mature" (and cute!) young chick, who always dated older men. I NEVER thought I would even find a younger man attractive, let alone actually be in a relationship with one. Until the last few years. One thing I always wanted more than anything, though, was REAL love, acceptance, someone I could be myself around, mutual respect...basically the fairy tale love and the whole package. And no more bullshit...love me as I am, or get the fuck out of my life so I can find someone who does! Somehow, I found it with a younger man, only five years younger, he's 25 to my 30, but hell, I'd love him no matter what age he was (er...over 18 and legal, that is!)
I have put a lot of thought into this one, and realize that this is very much what I have always wanted. Now, some late nights when I've been up too long and start thinking too hard, that little voice in the back of my head gets the best of me and I begin to worry and google things like "May-December" romances (lol, what a term) but in my heart, I know we're on the same level. And that level doesn't put me lower than any ladies that are dating more "mature" men. It DOES NOT mean that I have to take care of him and be his "teacher" or his elder, (or anything like a MILF or a cougar!) or that he cannot protect me still (when I need to feel protected, even though I am strong enough on my own!) It just means that I was finally able to put society's (or friend's or family's or WHOEVER'S) expectations aside and finally be happy and be with someone who "get's" me and really loves me for ME, no matter how old I am.
And, of course, this does go to the younger ladies with older men as well... I just felt that the theme HERE was that nagging little anxiety us "older than our boyfriends" girls sometimes feel. At least those of us who don't see ourselves as "cougars" and all that (not that there's anything WRONG with that! ;) ). Love and light to you all....even the last poster. I hope you all find true happiness with someone, as well as within yourselves. :)
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What the fuck is a "boyfri?" Sorry but after reading the conversation, it seems like you are sort of flaunting the fact that you have an older "boyfri" for these ladies who are feeling a little insecure about being with younger men. Who we may fear (in our little secret place that will always wonder and worry,) that our dear boyfriends will someday look for a much younger girl.
This post just reminded me of someone saying, (using your best valley girl voice,) "like, oh my god. You are like, so lucky, you aren't as pretty as I am. No one EVER takes me SRS. I know I'm like so cute and all, and have a RLY good body, but like, you're so lucky you're kinda fat and have some zits...you're probly rly good at math "
Oh well, you probably meant no harm, and that's probably just me and my insecurity being an ass, but maybe I speak for more than just me in what I heard there.
Ladies, this society we live in makes us feel less worthy and attractive as we get older. In the past I had always viewed myself as the "mature" (and cute!) young chick, who always dated older men. I NEVER thought I would even find a younger man attractive, let alone actually be in a relationship with one. Until the last few years. One thing I always wanted more than anything, though, was REAL love, acceptance, someone I could be myself around, mutual respect...basically the fairy tale love and the whole package. And no more bullshit...love me as I am, or get the fuck out of my life so I can find someone who does! Somehow, I found it with a younger man, only five years younger, he's 25 to my 30, but hell, I'd love him no matter what age he was (er...over 18 and legal, that is!)
I have put a lot of thought into this one, and realize that this is very much what I have always wanted. Now, some late nights when I've been up too long and start thinking too hard, that little voice in the back of my head gets the best of me and I begin to worry and google things like "May-December" romances (lol, what a term) but in my heart, I know we're on the same level. And that level doesn't put me lower than any ladies that are dating more "mature" men. It DOES NOT mean that I have to take care of him and be his "teacher" or his elder, (or anything like a MILF or a cougar!) or that he cannot protect me still (when I need to feel protected, even though I am strong enough on my own!) It just means that I was finally able to put society's (or friend's or family's or WHOEVER'S) expectations aside and finally be happy and be with someone who "get's" me and really loves me for ME, no matter how old I am.
And, of course, this does go to the younger ladies with older men as well... I just felt that the theme HERE was that nagging little anxiety us "older than our boyfriends" girls sometimes feel. At least those of us who don't see ourselves as "cougars" and all that (not that there's anything WRONG with that! ;) ). Love and light to you all....even the last poster. I hope you all find true happiness with someone, as well as within yourselves. :)
October 14, 2011 - 10:15pmThis Comment
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