Dear Rosa Cabrera and Susanc!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your quick replies!
I need your help indeed. I'm really at my wit's end how to act with him now.
I feel so bewildered, can't understand why he gets excited by asking me to do these kind of things. Last year our problem was, that he was talking in bed all the time how he sees me with another guy having sex.
It was fun in the beginning, but some weeks later I felt hurt. I asked him to have a change for a bit in sex life and just make love, I was totally against that fantasy cause it hurt my feelings. At that time we just started living together and it was a bit over the top for me. He agreed it was sick and since then he stopped talking about that in bed and now it came out with a worse scenario.
He says what he asked for is so normal for a guy in his 30s and I cant blame him for his sexuality. I feel so bad, as I don't want to lose intimacy with him, he warned me he will stop sharing his wild thoughts with me. I'm sure there is something broken between us now, and it will cost a lot of efforts to coma back to the normal state of things. My bf always says that the most important thing is to be able to open your sexual secrets to your partner. Otherwise, cheating is inevitable in the family.
I am afraid I will pull him away from me and he will always miss those things and one day he will want to try it again and he will find someone who will accept it in bed. Thus, I am insecure, as I know I cant make all his sexual desires come true.
I want him to be so close to me and keep true intimate relationship with him,but at the same time to show without hurting him what I can't bear in private life.
Thank you, everyone, in advance!
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Dear Rosa Cabrera and Susanc!
September 10, 2009 - 9:53amThank you from the bottom of my heart for your quick replies!
I need your help indeed. I'm really at my wit's end how to act with him now.
I feel so bewildered, can't understand why he gets excited by asking me to do these kind of things. Last year our problem was, that he was talking in bed all the time how he sees me with another guy having sex.
It was fun in the beginning, but some weeks later I felt hurt. I asked him to have a change for a bit in sex life and just make love, I was totally against that fantasy cause it hurt my feelings. At that time we just started living together and it was a bit over the top for me. He agreed it was sick and since then he stopped talking about that in bed and now it came out with a worse scenario.
He says what he asked for is so normal for a guy in his 30s and I cant blame him for his sexuality. I feel so bad, as I don't want to lose intimacy with him, he warned me he will stop sharing his wild thoughts with me. I'm sure there is something broken between us now, and it will cost a lot of efforts to coma back to the normal state of things. My bf always says that the most important thing is to be able to open your sexual secrets to your partner. Otherwise, cheating is inevitable in the family.
I am afraid I will pull him away from me and he will always miss those things and one day he will want to try it again and he will find someone who will accept it in bed. Thus, I am insecure, as I know I cant make all his sexual desires come true.
I want him to be so close to me and keep true intimate relationship with him,but at the same time to show without hurting him what I can't bear in private life.
Thank you, everyone, in advance!
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