I agree with Susan when she said this is a frustrating situation that definitely needs resolution. I think communication really needs to flourish in this situation. It would appear to me that erectile dysfunction may be an issue. I am a woman, but I think men cringe at the thought of this happening to them. It is a crutch to their ego.
Certainly, trying to get him to talk about this is your main objective. Try to make a comfortable situation for him to talk about it and maybe going to see his physician again. Steer clear of saying, “We need to talk”, because men tend to run from this statement or immediately know that something is wrong and get defensive.
Don't get argumentative, try to remove your feelings of inadequacy from the equation and think that he may have a serious issue and try to be helpful instead of defensive about your emotional feelings. Women are good for putting our emotions in everything we do and everything is personal. Try to stay away from that situation.
Ask him if there is anything you can do to spice up the situation. Ask him what he would enjoy. I hope this helps because clearly communication is essential.
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Hi sitnkimmie,
I agree with Susan when she said this is a frustrating situation that definitely needs resolution. I think communication really needs to flourish in this situation. It would appear to me that erectile dysfunction may be an issue. I am a woman, but I think men cringe at the thought of this happening to them. It is a crutch to their ego.
Certainly, trying to get him to talk about this is your main objective. Try to make a comfortable situation for him to talk about it and maybe going to see his physician again. Steer clear of saying, “We need to talk”, because men tend to run from this statement or immediately know that something is wrong and get defensive.
Don't get argumentative, try to remove your feelings of inadequacy from the equation and think that he may have a serious issue and try to be helpful instead of defensive about your emotional feelings. Women are good for putting our emotions in everything we do and everything is personal. Try to stay away from that situation.
Ask him if there is anything you can do to spice up the situation. Ask him what he would enjoy. I hope this helps because clearly communication is essential.
September 12, 2009 - 8:36amThis Comment
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