I would like to agree with everything Rosa said, and add this: Of COURSE you are good enough for him, and it doesn't have to do with whether you have gained or lost weight or whether you have purple hair. It is much more about the person you are inside. I worry that you are judging your worthiness just based on your appearance. Has he been critical of you in this area? Or is it just how you think about yourself?
Rosa is right -- you two have to be able to talk about this, with honesty and respect for one another, or it's not going to work out. And the lying is indeed a concern.
Since you were both so young when you started seeing one another, you haven't had very much experience working out problems together as adults. But if you are seriously thinking about being married to him one day, you have to be able to do it.
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Deanna,
I would like to agree with everything Rosa said, and add this: Of COURSE you are good enough for him, and it doesn't have to do with whether you have gained or lost weight or whether you have purple hair. It is much more about the person you are inside. I worry that you are judging your worthiness just based on your appearance. Has he been critical of you in this area? Or is it just how you think about yourself?
Rosa is right -- you two have to be able to talk about this, with honesty and respect for one another, or it's not going to work out. And the lying is indeed a concern.
Since you were both so young when you started seeing one another, you haven't had very much experience working out problems together as adults. But if you are seriously thinking about being married to him one day, you have to be able to do it.
September 23, 2009 - 9:20amThis Comment
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