Alison gave you some wonderful advice. I agree with her that your concern, first and foremost, needs to be your safety. I am assuming that there is some history of violence or threatening behavior here that caused you to leave? Am I right?
Many people with bipolar disorder get therapy, take medications and learn to live good and productive lives. But your ex-fiance needs to be the one to seek help for himself. It's not something you can take on, it just doesn't work that way. A person who has bipolar disorder is dealing with changes in brain chemistry that make their life erratic; they need professional help to begin to smooth it out.
The fact that you really love him and are missing him makes perfect sense. After all, you had spent enough time with this man to believe that he was the one you wanted to marry and spend your life with. It takes time to move on past that kind of commitment. But we all have to take care of ourselves, first, and if you feared for your safety, you had to get out. You did the right thing. Just take it day by day and don't be too hard on yourself for not being able to "get over it" so easily.
You may have done your fiance a favor by leaving, Cyndi. Sometimes it's something like that that ultimately makes a person want to change and get help.
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Cyndi,
Alison gave you some wonderful advice. I agree with her that your concern, first and foremost, needs to be your safety. I am assuming that there is some history of violence or threatening behavior here that caused you to leave? Am I right?
Many people with bipolar disorder get therapy, take medications and learn to live good and productive lives. But your ex-fiance needs to be the one to seek help for himself. It's not something you can take on, it just doesn't work that way. A person who has bipolar disorder is dealing with changes in brain chemistry that make their life erratic; they need professional help to begin to smooth it out.
The fact that you really love him and are missing him makes perfect sense. After all, you had spent enough time with this man to believe that he was the one you wanted to marry and spend your life with. It takes time to move on past that kind of commitment. But we all have to take care of ourselves, first, and if you feared for your safety, you had to get out. You did the right thing. Just take it day by day and don't be too hard on yourself for not being able to "get over it" so easily.
You may have done your fiance a favor by leaving, Cyndi. Sometimes it's something like that that ultimately makes a person want to change and get help.
September 30, 2009 - 9:34amThis Comment
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