I know that feeling, and you do sound smart, since you know the flip-side of this: if you didn't want to worry him and ask him to wear a condom, you know you'd have an even tougher time telling him that you two are pregnant! With that in mind, have you thought about talking with him in advance, about the "what if" you miss a pill? There are SO many reasons women miss pills, and there should be no guilt-trip or panic, but just some advance planning. It's tough enough that 100% of the birth control is all on your shoulders, that I would hope he is happy to talk with you about what IF you miss a pill, due to illness, dropping it down the sink, accidentally falling asleep and forgetting...just being human, you know?! Would he like you to tell him in advance, would he like you to just say, "let's use a condom tonight", or some other "code word"? Just a thought, as this is so common for so many women!
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I know that feeling, and you do sound smart, since you know the flip-side of this: if you didn't want to worry him and ask him to wear a condom, you know you'd have an even tougher time telling him that you two are pregnant! With that in mind, have you thought about talking with him in advance, about the "what if" you miss a pill? There are SO many reasons women miss pills, and there should be no guilt-trip or panic, but just some advance planning. It's tough enough that 100% of the birth control is all on your shoulders, that I would hope he is happy to talk with you about what IF you miss a pill, due to illness, dropping it down the sink, accidentally falling asleep and forgetting...just being human, you know?! Would he like you to tell him in advance, would he like you to just say, "let's use a condom tonight", or some other "code word"? Just a thought, as this is so common for so many women!
May 27, 2010 - 5:28pmThis Comment
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