I've suggested getting a hotel/motel for the night... many times and for about 4 months now. I would have no shame in that, we are both adults. I've also tried dressing up and looking sexy, but then it's just "why are you so dressed up" or "what did you have to do today to look so good", not "you look good today"... nothing of the sort. When I talk to him about how I feel, he says stuff like "you try to blow the smallest things into something big" or "are you trying to bring me down"... I've never even said anything to bruise his ego, I know men are sensitive about their "man-hood". However, he has seen me cry when he makes me feel this way and it's not a big deal to him, he always has excuses. How can someone just excuses the way they make their partner feel? I've also suggested we talk to someone and he's not willing, he says "we have no problems that should involve someone else". How he makes me feel is not a big deal what so ever to him, he just says "well, you shouldn't feel like this". Trust me, I WISH I could "just not feel like this"... never the less, I do. The spark in the bedroom is not gone, it's better... when we can. The spontaneity, GONE! Like I've said, I've tried to be spontaneous whispering seductively in his ear, "meet me in the car" or "wouldn't it be nice if we just got a hotel for the weekend?" I get no real response. I failed to mention, his dad has 100% hearing loss in one ear and about 40% loss in his other (WWII). We are not screamers and even if we were I doubt his dad would even hear us from way up stairs... due to the fact that you have to speak so loudly face to face with him. He had no problem growing up sneaking girls back home, I just don't see the problem now... we don't have to sneak into the house, like when he was young. He just doesn't understand or get how he makes me feel and when I TRY to explain, like I said, he blows it off like it's no big deal. I've told him flat out... it's a huge deal to me and still no change. He KNOWS I've been feeling crappy inside and out, I've told him this. Still, nothing... I just don't know anymore.
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I've suggested getting a hotel/motel for the night... many times and for about 4 months now. I would have no shame in that, we are both adults. I've also tried dressing up and looking sexy, but then it's just "why are you so dressed up" or "what did you have to do today to look so good", not "you look good today"... nothing of the sort. When I talk to him about how I feel, he says stuff like "you try to blow the smallest things into something big" or "are you trying to bring me down"... I've never even said anything to bruise his ego, I know men are sensitive about their "man-hood". However, he has seen me cry when he makes me feel this way and it's not a big deal to him, he always has excuses. How can someone just excuses the way they make their partner feel? I've also suggested we talk to someone and he's not willing, he says "we have no problems that should involve someone else". How he makes me feel is not a big deal what so ever to him, he just says "well, you shouldn't feel like this". Trust me, I WISH I could "just not feel like this"... never the less, I do. The spark in the bedroom is not gone, it's better... when we can. The spontaneity, GONE! Like I've said, I've tried to be spontaneous whispering seductively in his ear, "meet me in the car" or "wouldn't it be nice if we just got a hotel for the weekend?" I get no real response. I failed to mention, his dad has 100% hearing loss in one ear and about 40% loss in his other (WWII). We are not screamers and even if we were I doubt his dad would even hear us from way up stairs... due to the fact that you have to speak so loudly face to face with him. He had no problem growing up sneaking girls back home, I just don't see the problem now... we don't have to sneak into the house, like when he was young. He just doesn't understand or get how he makes me feel and when I TRY to explain, like I said, he blows it off like it's no big deal. I've told him flat out... it's a huge deal to me and still no change. He KNOWS I've been feeling crappy inside and out, I've told him this. Still, nothing... I just don't know anymore.
October 21, 2009 - 9:01amThis Comment
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