My boyfriend and I of 3 years have had trouble in the bedroom. We are both 40, I've been married and he has not. He needs to be stimulated by erotic lotions and a hand job and I need sex. He is always touching me and trying to give me oral pleasure but I need intercourse as a finale to be satisfied. He needs lotions and he must masturbate to even stay erect and ejaculate 80% of the time. This is the only thing we argue about. I've expressed my feelings and he tried to express his but I don't think he truly understands why he's like that. And I certainly don't understand it. This could be the demise of our relationship. I truly love him, he's everything I've ever wanted except for the bedroom. Help!!!!! When we do have inter course, it's amazing. I don't want it to stop, I just want it more often.