First, you need to realize that you're being manipulated here. You're giving your boyfriend oral sex but you're not receiving any intimacy in return. Things are very lopsided here.
There's something going on here that your boyfriend isn't sharing with you. Normal, healthy men in their 20s don't simply stop being interested in the woman they love and spend time with. He may be stressed over school or work; he may be worried about money; he may be depressed over something and worried that he won't be able to "perform." There's also a possibility that he is into internet porn, or that he is interested in someone else. Do you get the sense any of these things could be true?
Please understand that YOU cannot change him. It won't happen. You can only change you and your behavior. You may want to consider stopping having oral sex with him if the physical relationship is not going to go both ways, because it's making you feel vulnerable and used. You are "sick of being the only one that's left unsatisfied and in tears," and I say, of course you are. It's totally reasonable. You are giving and not receiving; he is taking and not giving. There's no way that that ends in two happy people.
What do you think may be going on with him? Do you have any clues other than what he's told you?
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Killer Bunnies,
First, you need to realize that you're being manipulated here. You're giving your boyfriend oral sex but you're not receiving any intimacy in return. Things are very lopsided here.
There's something going on here that your boyfriend isn't sharing with you. Normal, healthy men in their 20s don't simply stop being interested in the woman they love and spend time with. He may be stressed over school or work; he may be worried about money; he may be depressed over something and worried that he won't be able to "perform." There's also a possibility that he is into internet porn, or that he is interested in someone else. Do you get the sense any of these things could be true?
Please understand that YOU cannot change him. It won't happen. You can only change you and your behavior. You may want to consider stopping having oral sex with him if the physical relationship is not going to go both ways, because it's making you feel vulnerable and used. You are "sick of being the only one that's left unsatisfied and in tears," and I say, of course you are. It's totally reasonable. You are giving and not receiving; he is taking and not giving. There's no way that that ends in two happy people.
What do you think may be going on with him? Do you have any clues other than what he's told you?
October 29, 2009 - 8:47amThis Comment
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