First of all, you're so welcome. I'm very glad we can be of some help as you try to work through this!
You know, I'm just not liking how this is stacking up:
1. there is a porn issue, though you aren't sure of the degree of it
2. there seemed to be some attraction to another woman, and he works with her
3. the anime girls bother you
4. he seems uncaring when you are upset and sort of turns the arguments around on to you
5. he is young and healthy yet not interested in sex with you.
And yet you are the one thinking that you should lose weight and look your best to perhaps make him feel differently about you! (Instead of him working to be a good partner to you!)
I can tell that you are a thoughtful, giving, loving girlfriend. I can't help but think that there is something going on here that you don't know about. And it's hard to "fix" a situation when one partner thinks it needs fixing and the other partner thinks it's fine. Do you think there's any way he would go to a counselor with you for a couples session or two? Especially if you told him it was very important to you?
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Killer bunnies
First of all, you're so welcome. I'm very glad we can be of some help as you try to work through this!
You know, I'm just not liking how this is stacking up:
1. there is a porn issue, though you aren't sure of the degree of it
2. there seemed to be some attraction to another woman, and he works with her
3. the anime girls bother you
4. he seems uncaring when you are upset and sort of turns the arguments around on to you
5. he is young and healthy yet not interested in sex with you.
And yet you are the one thinking that you should lose weight and look your best to perhaps make him feel differently about you! (Instead of him working to be a good partner to you!)
I can tell that you are a thoughtful, giving, loving girlfriend. I can't help but think that there is something going on here that you don't know about. And it's hard to "fix" a situation when one partner thinks it needs fixing and the other partner thinks it's fine. Do you think there's any way he would go to a counselor with you for a couples session or two? Especially if you told him it was very important to you?
October 30, 2009 - 9:19amThis Comment
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