I have a question about herpes as well! Unfortunately, I gave my girlfriend genital herpes during oral sex. I get cold sores every now and then, but we always wait for them to pass before we become intimate again. Her doctor put her on valtrex and her first outbreak is over. She said it was due to viral shedding when I wasn't showing any signs and we didn't know. I feel so guilty, but I still want to keep her happy and satisfied. My question is if we both have the same strand but mine being oral and hers genital, would I be able to continue performing oral sex on her when neither of us are showing. Would it make it worse or have any effect at all? Would I be able to use my fingers? Obviously, we would use protection for regular sex. I just don't know what else to do.