Totally agree with you. MJ was not at all what media portrayed him to be. He was not shy (to me- he is the most and the best expressive artist, and he was so clear with his views and statements in his interviews), he was not gay or asexual (you don't need better proof than his songs/dance moves)- let's not even talk about the tragic accusation and of course vindication by the court itself.
And yes, why does all this matter anyway? We have got to respect his private persona and thank him and the creation for his talent.