Thank-you for your words scribbling. It was good to read such an insightful entry. I, like so many other people have considered suicide. The entry back in DECEMBER about the dad who committed suicide was referred to as someone that " thought he had no other choice, or options" Believe me, one who considers suicide has tried to get better, it is not a logical choice. But in our culture it is frowned upon to walk around looking depressed. Nobody wants to deal with a very down, withdrawn, sad person. So the depressed person goes to great lengths to hide the sadness and despair. Anger seems to be much more manageable for friends or even acquaintances to deal with. (Maybe people are more accepting of anger because there are so many angry people out there!) Ask yourself if you know someone who seems angry or negative all the time. OFTENTIMES they are the ones who may need help. The internet is an amazing tool. Ask them a lot of questions and tell them your interested in helping. You would be surprised how that negative person starts to confide in you and be prepared to watch him/her soften and explore feelings with you. Ask others about a good therapist. Asking questions is such a valuable tool. The depressed person is not going to do this. Someone else may need to coax or even call to make the first appointment! Remember it is not up to you to fix. But a shoulder to lean on goes a long long way. The father who took his life wanted to end it because he saw no other way to end his pain. People who end their lives are not doing it to be vicious- to get back at anyone. They simply give up. We need to change our attitudes about depression and suicide in our culture. It is not to make the family members miserable or unhappy. It is a way out.
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Thank-you for your words scribbling. It was good to read such an insightful entry. I, like so many other people have considered suicide. The entry back in DECEMBER about the dad who committed suicide was referred to as someone that " thought he had no other choice, or options" Believe me, one who considers suicide has tried to get better, it is not a logical choice. But in our culture it is frowned upon to walk around looking depressed. Nobody wants to deal with a very down, withdrawn, sad person. So the depressed person goes to great lengths to hide the sadness and despair. Anger seems to be much more manageable for friends or even acquaintances to deal with. (Maybe people are more accepting of anger because there are so many angry people out there!) Ask yourself if you know someone who seems angry or negative all the time. OFTENTIMES they are the ones who may need help. The internet is an amazing tool. Ask them a lot of questions and tell them your interested in helping. You would be surprised how that negative person starts to confide in you and be prepared to watch him/her soften and explore feelings with you. Ask others about a good therapist. Asking questions is such a valuable tool. The depressed person is not going to do this. Someone else may need to coax or even call to make the first appointment! Remember it is not up to you to fix. But a shoulder to lean on goes a long long way. The father who took his life wanted to end it because he saw no other way to end his pain. People who end their lives are not doing it to be vicious- to get back at anyone. They simply give up. We need to change our attitudes about depression and suicide in our culture. It is not to make the family members miserable or unhappy. It is a way out.
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