My husband-to-be is very much in control of when we can have sex, we will go weeks on end not having sex because whenever he comes home at the end of the day(about 7:30pm) and says he's 'tired', but then he will spend until 11pm watching TV and on facebook and I just feel that his priorities are else where. If I try to snuggle up to him on the sofa, he will move away and say that he's busy, but he's actually on facebook. I try confronting him about it, asking if its me, or if he thinks our sex life is boring or if he just doesn't find me attractive in that way anymore, but he just gets really offended and goes off on one saying we will have sex when I stop talking about 'our boring sex issue', which I have only tried to talk about a few times.
I don't want to marry into a sexless marriage and I would love to have kids in the next few years, but if it keeps up like this, I don't think it will probably happen. I can't even play him at his own game as it feels like he would prefer it and he always jokes about how I don't put out and stuff and it really upsets me and he doesn't get it. Him making love to me reassures me that he loves me, but because he doesn't take any notice of me, and trust me, I have tried coming at this with every angle, I just get blanked.
I spend most of my day crying because I don't know what to do with myself anymore and if he actually loves me or is still with me as a source of convenience.
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My husband-to-be is very much in control of when we can have sex, we will go weeks on end not having sex because whenever he comes home at the end of the day(about 7:30pm) and says he's 'tired', but then he will spend until 11pm watching TV and on facebook and I just feel that his priorities are else where. If I try to snuggle up to him on the sofa, he will move away and say that he's busy, but he's actually on facebook. I try confronting him about it, asking if its me, or if he thinks our sex life is boring or if he just doesn't find me attractive in that way anymore, but he just gets really offended and goes off on one saying we will have sex when I stop talking about 'our boring sex issue', which I have only tried to talk about a few times.
March 15, 2015 - 5:37amI don't want to marry into a sexless marriage and I would love to have kids in the next few years, but if it keeps up like this, I don't think it will probably happen. I can't even play him at his own game as it feels like he would prefer it and he always jokes about how I don't put out and stuff and it really upsets me and he doesn't get it. Him making love to me reassures me that he loves me, but because he doesn't take any notice of me, and trust me, I have tried coming at this with every angle, I just get blanked.
I spend most of my day crying because I don't know what to do with myself anymore and if he actually loves me or is still with me as a source of convenience.
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