Well I'm going to give it some time, adjust our new family, get financially stable again, etc. Did you read what to expect? I've read the one for pregnancy and the first year so far. I will say this, my hubbs has had a very strong sympathy pregnancy with me from the beginning. He still is on an ice cream craze, which on his medication specifically increases estrogen. Also when men react to pregnancy they have lower testosterone (which also happens on his medication as well) an produce other female hormones to help them become more nurturing and keep their libido in check while partner is pregnant and post Partum as well when women can't have sex for a few weeks to make it easier for both people. definitely give that a read, it's the Father section f the book and it's all basically about men struggling with low libido during and following pregnancy. So I will give it time. I told him that I'm too young to be in a sexless marriage and when we met we both said we enjoyed sex. I asked him plenty times if hell have sex with me after the baby and he says of course and acts like I'm asking some crazy question when we haven't had sex in months and the one time we did he didn't finisg cause he got soft. So I think it's hormonal and situational. Its very hard not to take it personally and depending on the outcome, I will eventually leave if things never change because I'll end up meeting someone new or I'll lose interest myself. All the guys comments on here are really just stupid to even read. I was so sensitive when I read them and then I realized how fucking awesome I am, I'm sure things will go back to normal when there's not a third person involed in our bedroom. He also made a comment about the baby moving during sex and if it would bother me, so I think it might bother him more than he leads on. Right now I'm a baby maker and his hormones are really to blame as well. He's stuck with me through worse situations and knowing we may never have a child of our own. I at least will give this time for sure. But not forever because if he loves me he'll figure something out to make it work for us both. Until then I'm not really horny anyways and hes been making an effort to make me feel beautiful and desired regardless and I'm getting a good amount of intimacy too. Have you guys had any time to go out alone and just be a couple since the baby?
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Well I'm going to give it some time, adjust our new family, get financially stable again, etc. Did you read what to expect? I've read the one for pregnancy and the first year so far. I will say this, my hubbs has had a very strong sympathy pregnancy with me from the beginning. He still is on an ice cream craze, which on his medication specifically increases estrogen. Also when men react to pregnancy they have lower testosterone (which also happens on his medication as well) an produce other female hormones to help them become more nurturing and keep their libido in check while partner is pregnant and post Partum as well when women can't have sex for a few weeks to make it easier for both people. definitely give that a read, it's the Father section f the book and it's all basically about men struggling with low libido during and following pregnancy. So I will give it time. I told him that I'm too young to be in a sexless marriage and when we met we both said we enjoyed sex. I asked him plenty times if hell have sex with me after the baby and he says of course and acts like I'm asking some crazy question when we haven't had sex in months and the one time we did he didn't finisg cause he got soft. So I think it's hormonal and situational. Its very hard not to take it personally and depending on the outcome, I will eventually leave if things never change because I'll end up meeting someone new or I'll lose interest myself. All the guys comments on here are really just stupid to even read. I was so sensitive when I read them and then I realized how fucking awesome I am, I'm sure things will go back to normal when there's not a third person involed in our bedroom. He also made a comment about the baby moving during sex and if it would bother me, so I think it might bother him more than he leads on. Right now I'm a baby maker and his hormones are really to blame as well. He's stuck with me through worse situations and knowing we may never have a child of our own. I at least will give this time for sure. But not forever because if he loves me he'll figure something out to make it work for us both. Until then I'm not really horny anyways and hes been making an effort to make me feel beautiful and desired regardless and I'm getting a good amount of intimacy too. Have you guys had any time to go out alone and just be a couple since the baby?
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