I feel like I could have wrote this post myself. I am literally going through the exact same thing. We've been together almost 5 years with a few break ups in between. We have a 3 year old daughter together, we live together, we're pretty much like an old married couple without the marriage. I know he loves me, I'm not questioning that but he never wants to have sex with me anymore. I can't even remember the last time he initiated it, it's been several months if not longer. I always have to ask and he ALWAYS says no at first. I pretty much have to beg him to fuck me. And when he finally does, he acts like it's a chore. It's never longer than 5 mins (if I'm lucky) and I can tell he's not really into it the whole time. It's always "take ur cloths off" in a huffy puffy tone. Never anything intimate, or desirable. Hardly ever any foreplay on his end. I sometimes give him a blow job to get him hard but that's it. He never touches me or shows me any effort. If he does give me oral it's because I ask him too (which is humiliating enough on its own) and its a chore to him. I haven't asked him to give me oral in over 2 months and he hasn't offered or just do it once. I feel ugly, rejected, and extremely unwanted. I feel as if he's just not into me anymore. He's the love of my life, father of my child. We used to have sex daily, multiple times a day. I feel so empty and alone. I've started to look for comfort and attention from other places. I haven't acted on anything, but I want too. I need attention, love, to feel wanted, needed, sexy, etc. I bring it up to him almost everyday and today he finally admitted to me that he feels our sex life is boring and he just doesn't have the energy or desire too do it anymore. My heart is shattered. My ego is ruined. I feel so shitty about myself right now. What can I do to make this better? I hope your situation gets better too, I'll keep you in my prayers. Know that ur not alone, if you want to talk reply back and we can email so that way we can at least vent about it to someone who understands.
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I feel like I could have wrote this post myself. I am literally going through the exact same thing. We've been together almost 5 years with a few break ups in between. We have a 3 year old daughter together, we live together, we're pretty much like an old married couple without the marriage. I know he loves me, I'm not questioning that but he never wants to have sex with me anymore. I can't even remember the last time he initiated it, it's been several months if not longer. I always have to ask and he ALWAYS says no at first. I pretty much have to beg him to fuck me. And when he finally does, he acts like it's a chore. It's never longer than 5 mins (if I'm lucky) and I can tell he's not really into it the whole time. It's always "take ur cloths off" in a huffy puffy tone. Never anything intimate, or desirable. Hardly ever any foreplay on his end. I sometimes give him a blow job to get him hard but that's it. He never touches me or shows me any effort. If he does give me oral it's because I ask him too (which is humiliating enough on its own) and its a chore to him. I haven't asked him to give me oral in over 2 months and he hasn't offered or just do it once. I feel ugly, rejected, and extremely unwanted. I feel as if he's just not into me anymore. He's the love of my life, father of my child. We used to have sex daily, multiple times a day. I feel so empty and alone. I've started to look for comfort and attention from other places. I haven't acted on anything, but I want too. I need attention, love, to feel wanted, needed, sexy, etc. I bring it up to him almost everyday and today he finally admitted to me that he feels our sex life is boring and he just doesn't have the energy or desire too do it anymore. My heart is shattered. My ego is ruined. I feel so shitty about myself right now. What can I do to make this better? I hope your situation gets better too, I'll keep you in my prayers. Know that ur not alone, if you want to talk reply back and we can email so that way we can at least vent about it to someone who understands.
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