My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. We used to live in different cities but they were only about 60kms apart so we used to see each other between 2 and 4 times a week. We used to have sex at least 3/4 times we saw each other. We've moved in together now and things have gone severely downhill, at least sex wise. I know he loves me, I have no insecurities about that. But it seems he's not attracted to me anymore. Since we've met I've put on and lost weight and it never affected our physical relationship. We still talk and spend quality time together and he always tells me how much he loves me, and I know that should be enough but I'm feeling empty and detached. Sex has always been very important to me and now I just don't know if I'm validated in feeling this way or not. I've tried dressing up and hinting and outright trying but I'm terrified of rejection and every time I try to initiate sex it ends in disaster.
I love this man with all my heart but I don't know how much longer I can handle feeling so unwanted and asexual.
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My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. We used to live in different cities but they were only about 60kms apart so we used to see each other between 2 and 4 times a week. We used to have sex at least 3/4 times we saw each other. We've moved in together now and things have gone severely downhill, at least sex wise. I know he loves me, I have no insecurities about that. But it seems he's not attracted to me anymore. Since we've met I've put on and lost weight and it never affected our physical relationship. We still talk and spend quality time together and he always tells me how much he loves me, and I know that should be enough but I'm feeling empty and detached. Sex has always been very important to me and now I just don't know if I'm validated in feeling this way or not. I've tried dressing up and hinting and outright trying but I'm terrified of rejection and every time I try to initiate sex it ends in disaster.
I love this man with all my heart but I don't know how much longer I can handle feeling so unwanted and asexual.
March 4, 2017 - 11:30amThis Comment
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