Hi I have been married almost 4 years . I always knew my husband was a bit 'anal' and annoying with certain things but just over looked it as he is a bit of a perfectionist. Well recently either his symptoms have got worse or it is just harder to deal with , but alot of times I feel like I am the crazy one . After finally realising that this is not normal behaviour and that he might have a problem. I have reseached OCPD and it was like some one put the light on and it all just made sense. I am sure that he has OCPD , i feel at this point that I am able to deal with it , and it is not me that I am too concerned about or our marraige , but the fact that he gets really depressed sometimes over the samllest of incidents. Also we are fighting more and more as I am finding it more and more difficult to understand where he is coming from and the way he thinks just doesnt make any sense to me. The whole world is always against him and I find myself feeling depressed and down alot when I am generally a very carefree happy person .... My question is , do I suggest to him that he might have OCPD ? Or do I leave it alone and just learn about it myself so that I am able to understand more ? I am worried that if I tell him he has OCPD he will take it personally that I think there is something wrong with him and I don't think that he will ever admit to having any kind of disorder because there is never anything wrong with him .... it is everyone else that has a problem ... what do I do ?
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Hi I have been married almost 4 years . I always knew my husband was a bit 'anal' and annoying with certain things but just over looked it as he is a bit of a perfectionist. Well recently either his symptoms have got worse or it is just harder to deal with , but alot of times I feel like I am the crazy one . After finally realising that this is not normal behaviour and that he might have a problem. I have reseached OCPD and it was like some one put the light on and it all just made sense. I am sure that he has OCPD , i feel at this point that I am able to deal with it , and it is not me that I am too concerned about or our marraige , but the fact that he gets really depressed sometimes over the samllest of incidents. Also we are fighting more and more as I am finding it more and more difficult to understand where he is coming from and the way he thinks just doesnt make any sense to me. The whole world is always against him and I find myself feeling depressed and down alot when I am generally a very carefree happy person .... My question is , do I suggest to him that he might have OCPD ? Or do I leave it alone and just learn about it myself so that I am able to understand more ? I am worried that if I tell him he has OCPD he will take it personally that I think there is something wrong with him and I don't think that he will ever admit to having any kind of disorder because there is never anything wrong with him .... it is everyone else that has a problem ... what do I do ?
April 25, 2013 - 6:10amThis Comment
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