Being married to someone with OCPD is embearable and I know because I'm married to a man who was diagnosed a couple years ago. He also went through a major depression due to the lack of treatment. When he completely feels out of control "disrespected" he looses it. Recently I've been falsely accused of having an affair, been told the only value I bring is that I do his laundry, that he doesn't want our daughter to grow up anything like me, my mother caused my deceased father to drink himself to death because of her meaness and the list goes on. We've been through 4 counsellors who basically told him to stop criticizing me, stop beating me over the head with a 2X4 mentally, he was so depressed that although the doctor wasn't a fan of medication told him it would give him a leg up, and the best advice was that he has an extreme case of OCPD and to get some help. He doesn't allow people to have opinions and a point of view, he hordes food, useless/worn out items and is the most judgmental person I know. It's good for a week or two but the second I have an opinion or doing something that he is not involved in I'm the worst person in the world. It's all good or all bad all of the time which makes me second guess myself of leaving. We have 2 amazing kids that i feel are being robbed of me. I plan on meeting my divorce lawyer to get additional advice. He knows I want out but holds money over my head and continues to multiplate and sell me on this so called life. He cooks, is successful, really funny, great dad, amazing son and in the eyes of others... a perfect husband. It's all about perception and with many fake vacations posed as lavish gifts... It's all fake. Brilliant but fake. Not one executed! All cancelled because of a simple argument but at least he can tell his friends and family that he gave me a trip to New York or a romantic hot air balloon ride or a get a way to Cancun. I'm blessed that I have A good resume and starting to build my business I'm in now (gave up the corporate job so he could fully pursue his) but there's no money in this world that will change this marriage. I've tried and have lost all hope. Too much hurt and rather than continue being bitter and mad I'm feeling optimistic about what the future brings. I pray that the way Ive been feeling stays consistent and I'm strong enough to make a change. I pray for all who have to deal with this disease. It's so hard but please remember ITS NOT YOU and if you fix the issue at hand He WILL FIND ANOTHER!
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Being married to someone with OCPD is embearable and I know because I'm married to a man who was diagnosed a couple years ago. He also went through a major depression due to the lack of treatment. When he completely feels out of control "disrespected" he looses it. Recently I've been falsely accused of having an affair, been told the only value I bring is that I do his laundry, that he doesn't want our daughter to grow up anything like me, my mother caused my deceased father to drink himself to death because of her meaness and the list goes on. We've been through 4 counsellors who basically told him to stop criticizing me, stop beating me over the head with a 2X4 mentally, he was so depressed that although the doctor wasn't a fan of medication told him it would give him a leg up, and the best advice was that he has an extreme case of OCPD and to get some help. He doesn't allow people to have opinions and a point of view, he hordes food, useless/worn out items and is the most judgmental person I know. It's good for a week or two but the second I have an opinion or doing something that he is not involved in I'm the worst person in the world. It's all good or all bad all of the time which makes me second guess myself of leaving. We have 2 amazing kids that i feel are being robbed of me. I plan on meeting my divorce lawyer to get additional advice. He knows I want out but holds money over my head and continues to multiplate and sell me on this so called life. He cooks, is successful, really funny, great dad, amazing son and in the eyes of others... a perfect husband. It's all about perception and with many fake vacations posed as lavish gifts... It's all fake. Brilliant but fake. Not one executed! All cancelled because of a simple argument but at least he can tell his friends and family that he gave me a trip to New York or a romantic hot air balloon ride or a get a way to Cancun. I'm blessed that I have A good resume and starting to build my business I'm in now (gave up the corporate job so he could fully pursue his) but there's no money in this world that will change this marriage. I've tried and have lost all hope. Too much hurt and rather than continue being bitter and mad I'm feeling optimistic about what the future brings. I pray that the way Ive been feeling stays consistent and I'm strong enough to make a change. I pray for all who have to deal with this disease. It's so hard but please remember ITS NOT YOU and if you fix the issue at hand He WILL FIND ANOTHER!
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