Your story is so similar to mine, it is actually comforting in a strange way to know I am not alone. i so u der stand where you are. I have a six year old son and whilst i have done my best to shield him from the destructive consequences he is getting older and the impact is greater. With my husband it is about mess and keeping things brand new, so I bought my son (husband and I have separate finances) a bike. Whenever m y son uses it my husband says 'be careful. ,, not to fall off.... and scratch the bike''. A small example of a much larger problem that has caused severe depression in me and exacerbation of chronic disease.
I want to leave but am conflicted because then I will have to hand over a small 6 year old boy to the madness for a whole weekend. It truly is awful to wait the controlling behaviour. Our dishwasher broke and so after 4 months o managed to get it fixed under warranty. Husband had never loaded dishwSher nor ever cooked or washed up by hand. Once o got the dishwasher fixed he said we weren't to use it as he cleaned it before the repair man came and that it was 'disgusting' and he can't have anything in there, I said I don't care if you don't wa t to use the dishwasher. It I am not washing up. So he now washes up every day cursing and moaning about mess because he can't bear to put a dish in the clean dishwasher. I evidently don't wash up properly and am going to poison him. His mother sends our so clothes but he won't let me wash them. Because they will get ruined, so 2 years later the clothes she Se t her grandson are now too small sitting in dads wardrobe. Ot to mention the constant insults his favourite comment to me is ' it's not rocket science' ' normal people don't do that'etc etc.
What a lonely place to be. he has no problem, it is all my fault, if only i would keep the house the wAy he wanted everything would be fine. Forget that I work full time have chronic disease and earn twice as much as him......
My husband was diagnosed by psychiatrist as having OCPd but he refuses to accept that so won't get assistance. Your story could be mine the behaviours are so similar.
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Your story is so similar to mine, it is actually comforting in a strange way to know I am not alone. i so u der stand where you are. I have a six year old son and whilst i have done my best to shield him from the destructive consequences he is getting older and the impact is greater. With my husband it is about mess and keeping things brand new, so I bought my son (husband and I have separate finances) a bike. Whenever m y son uses it my husband says 'be careful. ,, not to fall off.... and scratch the bike''. A small example of a much larger problem that has caused severe depression in me and exacerbation of chronic disease.
July 29, 2015 - 7:02amI want to leave but am conflicted because then I will have to hand over a small 6 year old boy to the madness for a whole weekend. It truly is awful to wait the controlling behaviour. Our dishwasher broke and so after 4 months o managed to get it fixed under warranty. Husband had never loaded dishwSher nor ever cooked or washed up by hand. Once o got the dishwasher fixed he said we weren't to use it as he cleaned it before the repair man came and that it was 'disgusting' and he can't have anything in there, I said I don't care if you don't wa t to use the dishwasher. It I am not washing up. So he now washes up every day cursing and moaning about mess because he can't bear to put a dish in the clean dishwasher. I evidently don't wash up properly and am going to poison him. His mother sends our so clothes but he won't let me wash them. Because they will get ruined, so 2 years later the clothes she Se t her grandson are now too small sitting in dads wardrobe. Ot to mention the constant insults his favourite comment to me is ' it's not rocket science' ' normal people don't do that'etc etc.
What a lonely place to be. he has no problem, it is all my fault, if only i would keep the house the wAy he wanted everything would be fine. Forget that I work full time have chronic disease and earn twice as much as him......
My husband was diagnosed by psychiatrist as having OCPd but he refuses to accept that so won't get assistance. Your story could be mine the behaviours are so similar.
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