Annette - As always, you've given us very good advice and it's appreciated. I'd just add that, as a single woman, my experience with cancer has been different from yours, and you're fortunate to have a partner at your side through all of this. Most people have no training or experience in how to help another person with a cancer diagnosis, and most people need some guidance and support. I really like what you said about being in a new reality where you don't know the rules. It helps to be kind, gentle and patient with everyone in your life and remember just as you have to learn the new rules, they do too. Keeping expectations realistic and learning to flow with the new reality makes life a lot easier on everyone, especially the person living with cancer.
Take care, Pat