Alison, thanks for your reply. I needed to see a lot of this information. To answer your questions, my sexual status (as a result of my "choices") happens to be a result of some early inappropriateness that I hadn't fully dealt with. I spent my 20's on several different antidepressants...didn't understand that libido gets killed by them, and entered a convent in my 30's, figuring I was sexually unresponsive for a reason. I left this year, when I started to notice men, and believed a celibate lifestyle wouldn't work for me. I am in therapy to deal with the feelings I'm having, and understand that it may take some time for a meaningful relationship to develop between me and the current man. As for the hymen issue, it is mostly intact...just a small tag on one side from a bicycle accident when I was nine. All the pelvic exams I've had have included a very odd, circular pain, which I attributed to a hymen that stretches but hasn't torn yet. A friend of mine told me I would probably me too tight for most men to be patient enough to deal with, which prompted the question in the first place. If what I've heard is true, a tighter fit isn't generally something men complain about, anyhow. As inexperienced as I am at this point, I'm not sure who or what to believe. A close friend of mine has recommended a gynecologist she took her daughter to, and is helping me to talk through a lot of the things I can't really approach my mother with.
Thanks again for your reply. It set my mind a little more at ease.
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Alison, thanks for your reply. I needed to see a lot of this information. To answer your questions, my sexual status (as a result of my "choices") happens to be a result of some early inappropriateness that I hadn't fully dealt with. I spent my 20's on several different antidepressants...didn't understand that libido gets killed by them, and entered a convent in my 30's, figuring I was sexually unresponsive for a reason. I left this year, when I started to notice men, and believed a celibate lifestyle wouldn't work for me. I am in therapy to deal with the feelings I'm having, and understand that it may take some time for a meaningful relationship to develop between me and the current man. As for the hymen issue, it is mostly intact...just a small tag on one side from a bicycle accident when I was nine. All the pelvic exams I've had have included a very odd, circular pain, which I attributed to a hymen that stretches but hasn't torn yet. A friend of mine told me I would probably me too tight for most men to be patient enough to deal with, which prompted the question in the first place. If what I've heard is true, a tighter fit isn't generally something men complain about, anyhow. As inexperienced as I am at this point, I'm not sure who or what to believe. A close friend of mine has recommended a gynecologist she took her daughter to, and is helping me to talk through a lot of the things I can't really approach my mother with.
Thanks again for your reply. It set my mind a little more at ease.
January 18, 2010 - 2:19pmThis Comment
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