It's not fair to you for him to give you the "you don't love me anymore" guilt line. I know that there are days when we are simply tired, not in the mood, or just want to do other things with our significant others. It is entirely normal to not want to have sex every time you see your boyfriend.
Next time you see him, tell him-- "before you say that I don't love you. I do, with all of my heart, but I feel like all you we do is have sex and I would like for our relationship to be much more than that. As much as I enjoy having sex with you-- do you think it would be okay if we switched it up a bit and went out for dinner tonight? Next time, I will make it worth your while."
Of course you can change that to something you would like to do other than go to dinner but it is just an idea. If he honestly doesn't understand why you don't want sex every single time you guys see each other, then he may have a sex addiction which he could get help for or he may not be the one for you.
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Atoti,
It's not fair to you for him to give you the "you don't love me anymore" guilt line. I know that there are days when we are simply tired, not in the mood, or just want to do other things with our significant others. It is entirely normal to not want to have sex every time you see your boyfriend.
Next time you see him, tell him-- "before you say that I don't love you. I do, with all of my heart, but I feel like all you we do is have sex and I would like for our relationship to be much more than that. As much as I enjoy having sex with you-- do you think it would be okay if we switched it up a bit and went out for dinner tonight? Next time, I will make it worth your while."
Of course you can change that to something you would like to do other than go to dinner but it is just an idea. If he honestly doesn't understand why you don't want sex every single time you guys see each other, then he may have a sex addiction which he could get help for or he may not be the one for you.
January 22, 2010 - 6:28amThis Comment
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