I know all about chronic stress....My sister and I are caring for my mother. Mom lives with my sister and my sister works full time so I take on the day to day needs of mom. That means taking her to appointments, making her lunches, and one to two dinners per week, giving her a shower, paying her bills, etc.
My sister is now into the flight response to mom as mom is really needy now. She won't even use a microwave to warm food and she won't spend an evening alone. I usually go over 2 nights a week to spend time with mom and mom sits at her computer and ignores me. But she knows someone is there.
Anyway, my question to anyone is. Does anyone know of a supplement that might help us to deal with this stress as it is or seems unending and we really don't know when it will end. If there is something that might help, I would try it. Frankly, we are both getting tired of this routine and it's only been 2 years. Because I retired 7 years ago, I took care of my dad's appointments and mom's for all of that time so it's been a longer time for me. But my sister has been living with it longer. (although she is rarely there ) My sister works very hard and is unwilling to make more than one dinner meal per week which she serves to mom every night unless I make something for mom.
Anyway, I'm rambling and don't offer that we need more help as there are only 2 of us and we have enlisted our children to the point of exhaustion. My sister takes at least 4 weeks vacation each year and last summer was gone from June-October on the weekends so we all had to pitch in. Mom stayed with me for 6 weeks in the Spring and then every week when my sister was on vacation and I shared with my daughter and my niece the coverage for the weekends. I myself got only 4 days vacation last year. But as everyone likes to point out....I am on a permanent vacation because I am retired....Yeah, right....HELP
And, oh yeah, I'm overweight but do exercise 3-4 times per week at the YWCA.
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I know all about chronic stress....My sister and I are caring for my mother. Mom lives with my sister and my sister works full time so I take on the day to day needs of mom. That means taking her to appointments, making her lunches, and one to two dinners per week, giving her a shower, paying her bills, etc.
February 7, 2010 - 7:55amMy sister is now into the flight response to mom as mom is really needy now. She won't even use a microwave to warm food and she won't spend an evening alone. I usually go over 2 nights a week to spend time with mom and mom sits at her computer and ignores me. But she knows someone is there.
Anyway, my question to anyone is. Does anyone know of a supplement that might help us to deal with this stress as it is or seems unending and we really don't know when it will end. If there is something that might help, I would try it. Frankly, we are both getting tired of this routine and it's only been 2 years. Because I retired 7 years ago, I took care of my dad's appointments and mom's for all of that time so it's been a longer time for me. But my sister has been living with it longer. (although she is rarely there ) My sister works very hard and is unwilling to make more than one dinner meal per week which she serves to mom every night unless I make something for mom.
Anyway, I'm rambling and don't offer that we need more help as there are only 2 of us and we have enlisted our children to the point of exhaustion. My sister takes at least 4 weeks vacation each year and last summer was gone from June-October on the weekends so we all had to pitch in. Mom stayed with me for 6 weeks in the Spring and then every week when my sister was on vacation and I shared with my daughter and my niece the coverage for the weekends. I myself got only 4 days vacation last year. But as everyone likes to point out....I am on a permanent vacation because I am retired....Yeah, right....HELP
And, oh yeah, I'm overweight but do exercise 3-4 times per week at the YWCA.
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