There are two issues:
1. Your sadness, stress and depression/depressed feelings
2. Your boyfriend's actions
Regarding the first issue. You have said that you are sad, stressed by not being able to find a job, and a little depressed. It is difficult for you to get out of bed in the morning, and that you have an "attitude" in the morning. Have you truly assessed what is going on? Do you feel that you have a reason to get out of bed? Are you sleeping well during the night?
There are many resources for you, depending on if you are having trouble getting out of bed because you are still exhausted (either from stress, lack of sleep, insomnia, getting to bed late, etc) or if you can't get out of bed because of excess stress, depression, not feeling that you have a reason to get out of bed, etc.
The second issue. Your boyfriend sounds like he may be worried about you, and by seeing you physically up and out of bed would provide relief that you are OK (even if you are not). Is your lying in bed inconveniencing him in any way (ie, are you in his apartment?)? Are you wanting him to tip-toe around you, while he is trying to work and you are in bed until noon? He may want you to contribute around the house, which is understandable, and not just lay around all day. If you do not communicate with him that you need some professional help (counselor for depression, or job-finding service), then he is going to assume you are just being lazy...probably the reason you are so mad that he would assume this and not magically know what is going on (if you have not communicated with him). If you two are sharing living space, then you do have responsibilities around the house. If you are at his place, then he does have a right to his space (and his bed). I don't agree with him treating you like a child, but it does sound like you were acting like a child ("defying" the need to get up, and pushing the limits).
Please don't use him as your scape goat when you say he's pissing you off. It's your responsibility to tell him that you are going to sleep until 12noon, that you have a headache and need some alone time, that you are sad and need his help to go to counseling, or to say that you need a hug. Communication is key, and needs to start with you!
How does this make you feel? I would like to hear back from you, and know if you need some resources to help you through this sad, depressed and stressful time in your life. How old are you---how long have you been looking for a job?
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There are two issues:
1. Your sadness, stress and depression/depressed feelings
2. Your boyfriend's actions
Regarding the first issue. You have said that you are sad, stressed by not being able to find a job, and a little depressed. It is difficult for you to get out of bed in the morning, and that you have an "attitude" in the morning. Have you truly assessed what is going on? Do you feel that you have a reason to get out of bed? Are you sleeping well during the night?
There are many resources for you, depending on if you are having trouble getting out of bed because you are still exhausted (either from stress, lack of sleep, insomnia, getting to bed late, etc) or if you can't get out of bed because of excess stress, depression, not feeling that you have a reason to get out of bed, etc.
The second issue. Your boyfriend sounds like he may be worried about you, and by seeing you physically up and out of bed would provide relief that you are OK (even if you are not). Is your lying in bed inconveniencing him in any way (ie, are you in his apartment?)? Are you wanting him to tip-toe around you, while he is trying to work and you are in bed until noon? He may want you to contribute around the house, which is understandable, and not just lay around all day. If you do not communicate with him that you need some professional help (counselor for depression, or job-finding service), then he is going to assume you are just being lazy...probably the reason you are so mad that he would assume this and not magically know what is going on (if you have not communicated with him). If you two are sharing living space, then you do have responsibilities around the house. If you are at his place, then he does have a right to his space (and his bed). I don't agree with him treating you like a child, but it does sound like you were acting like a child ("defying" the need to get up, and pushing the limits).
Please don't use him as your scape goat when you say he's pissing you off. It's your responsibility to tell him that you are going to sleep until 12noon, that you have a headache and need some alone time, that you are sad and need his help to go to counseling, or to say that you need a hug. Communication is key, and needs to start with you!
How does this make you feel? I would like to hear back from you, and know if you need some resources to help you through this sad, depressed and stressful time in your life. How old are you---how long have you been looking for a job?
February 25, 2010 - 2:15pmThis Comment
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