It's clear that he does care about you. And I know that you love him so much.
I don't understand how you have been dating for three months but haven't seen him for the last two months. Did you only get to see each other for one month?
But it seems like things are stacked against you. You didn't say how old your boyfriend is, but I am assuming he is 20, like you, or older, and that both of you are adults. Yet if his family doesn't want him to see you, he doesn't, and if his friends pressure him not to see you, he doesn't.
It seems like one of two things is going on here:
1. Either he is not strong enough to tell his family and friends to back off, or
2. He isn't in love with you anymore but he's using his friends and family as an excuse because it's easier.
Either way, you are alone right now, and hurting, and hoping. That's not good.
It may be that being without you for a while will show him how much he really does care about you, like when he called when it was raining. But there's nothing you can do to make him act differently. I wish I could tell you differently, but I can't. When someone wants out of a relationship, or wants less pressure in their lives, there's very little you can do to change that.
Do the two of you live far apart? Is that part of why you couldn't see one another more?
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Bambino,
It's clear that he does care about you. And I know that you love him so much.
I don't understand how you have been dating for three months but haven't seen him for the last two months. Did you only get to see each other for one month?
But it seems like things are stacked against you. You didn't say how old your boyfriend is, but I am assuming he is 20, like you, or older, and that both of you are adults. Yet if his family doesn't want him to see you, he doesn't, and if his friends pressure him not to see you, he doesn't.
It seems like one of two things is going on here:
1. Either he is not strong enough to tell his family and friends to back off, or
2. He isn't in love with you anymore but he's using his friends and family as an excuse because it's easier.
Either way, you are alone right now, and hurting, and hoping. That's not good.
It may be that being without you for a while will show him how much he really does care about you, like when he called when it was raining. But there's nothing you can do to make him act differently. I wish I could tell you differently, but I can't. When someone wants out of a relationship, or wants less pressure in their lives, there's very little you can do to change that.
Do the two of you live far apart? Is that part of why you couldn't see one another more?
March 2, 2010 - 9:37amThis Comment
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