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Thank you so much to the NYC art school model.
I would just like to say to the previous two posters, Your judgement and criticism was in no ways necessary or constructive.
I already knew in my head what I should feel but my body was feeling things I did not understand.
I had recently had a baby, and I was still loosing the baby weight and the tummy, and I didn't feel sexy at all. I didn't want to blame this and that is why I didn't include it in the first post.
I have now become more comfortable with his art classes and I think it is due to my realisation that I was not seeing myself as a woman any more. The people he was drawing in art class were slim and beautiful and I felt they were sexual women in a ways that I wasn't, I was now a mum who was out of touch with her body.
All of that aside, my body was reacting with that gut feeling, even though I didn't think I should be uncomfortable with it.
Also, I in no way said I thought nudity was shameful! You are spinning my words. I felt that me and my husband have a special relationship that calls for monogamy, and a part of that is not gawking at other women. There is a difference between seeing a person (nude or clothed) and saying wow they are beautiful, or wow they have lovely legs, or wow their boobs look great in that. As opposed to, wow I wish I could go home with her, and thinking about another person while you are with your wife. Fantasies for interests sake are one thing, fantasies because you are missing something and desiring something different to what you have are another.
Also, I have never seen a nude man other than my husband in person, and the only woman I have seen is my mother. Me and my husband started dating very young as I mentioned and I suppose this had meant that I have not had the chance to put nudity into it's context (but this is not reason to say "I'm repulsed, to be honest" about my insecurities!!!
I came on here to find help putting this into context, not to be attacked because at the time I couldn't!!!
Also about nudity being natural, yes if we all walked around every day naked, I can see where you are coming from. But this society tells us to cover up, so there are not only conflicting but confusing views out there and we all need to work out what we as individuals are comfortable with (no one person has the right answer!!)
I have worked through this as I read the course description and now understand the purpose of the life drawings. It was not so he could make a living of drawing nudes. He is doing animation and needs to be able to create realistic looking humans with realistic clothes on their bodies (you need to understand what is underneath to draw the top layer)
However I still feel paintings with beautiful women are meant to sexualise them, the human body is beautiful and desirable and there is nothing wrong with that. But am I crazy if I want to be the woman of my husbands dreams?
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(from the original poster)
Thank you so much to the NYC art school model.
I would just like to say to the previous two posters, Your judgement and criticism was in no ways necessary or constructive.
I already knew in my head what I should feel but my body was feeling things I did not understand.
I had recently had a baby, and I was still loosing the baby weight and the tummy, and I didn't feel sexy at all. I didn't want to blame this and that is why I didn't include it in the first post.
I have now become more comfortable with his art classes and I think it is due to my realisation that I was not seeing myself as a woman any more. The people he was drawing in art class were slim and beautiful and I felt they were sexual women in a ways that I wasn't, I was now a mum who was out of touch with her body.
All of that aside, my body was reacting with that gut feeling, even though I didn't think I should be uncomfortable with it.
Also, I in no way said I thought nudity was shameful! You are spinning my words. I felt that me and my husband have a special relationship that calls for monogamy, and a part of that is not gawking at other women. There is a difference between seeing a person (nude or clothed) and saying wow they are beautiful, or wow they have lovely legs, or wow their boobs look great in that. As opposed to, wow I wish I could go home with her, and thinking about another person while you are with your wife. Fantasies for interests sake are one thing, fantasies because you are missing something and desiring something different to what you have are another.
Also, I have never seen a nude man other than my husband in person, and the only woman I have seen is my mother. Me and my husband started dating very young as I mentioned and I suppose this had meant that I have not had the chance to put nudity into it's context (but this is not reason to say "I'm repulsed, to be honest" about my insecurities!!!
I came on here to find help putting this into context, not to be attacked because at the time I couldn't!!!
Also about nudity being natural, yes if we all walked around every day naked, I can see where you are coming from. But this society tells us to cover up, so there are not only conflicting but confusing views out there and we all need to work out what we as individuals are comfortable with (no one person has the right answer!!)
I have worked through this as I read the course description and now understand the purpose of the life drawings. It was not so he could make a living of drawing nudes. He is doing animation and needs to be able to create realistic looking humans with realistic clothes on their bodies (you need to understand what is underneath to draw the top layer)
However I still feel paintings with beautiful women are meant to sexualise them, the human body is beautiful and desirable and there is nothing wrong with that. But am I crazy if I want to be the woman of my husbands dreams?
Thank you to everyone with constructive posts :)
May 11, 2010 - 3:38pmThis Comment
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