what really helped me was knowing how my husband felt when drawing. He loves doing his art, but when he looked at the people posing, he said he was looking at the lines, and the shapes. And that it was work that he needed to complete. He felt it would be no different to drawing fruit, as he was just wanting to produce the likeness.
He explained that he never gawked, and that if anything he would look completely objectivly, and was very aware of their flaws. However because he loves me, he doesn't see flaws (I think this is being blinded by love).
So I guess what I am saying is, he won't be looking at them the way he sees you. They are a person, you are the woman he loves. So it really doesn't matter how old or what they look like, he will never think they are beautiful in the way he thinks you are. And I'm sure if you think about how you look at men other than your husband, even if they have things he doesn't, you are still only wanting your husband. Relating to it this way really helped me.
That said in your personal space I think is bluring the lines, work is work and should not be brought home no matter what the type of work. So it would be worse if they are in a space you and your husband share.
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what really helped me was knowing how my husband felt when drawing. He loves doing his art, but when he looked at the people posing, he said he was looking at the lines, and the shapes. And that it was work that he needed to complete. He felt it would be no different to drawing fruit, as he was just wanting to produce the likeness.
He explained that he never gawked, and that if anything he would look completely objectivly, and was very aware of their flaws. However because he loves me, he doesn't see flaws (I think this is being blinded by love).
So I guess what I am saying is, he won't be looking at them the way he sees you. They are a person, you are the woman he loves. So it really doesn't matter how old or what they look like, he will never think they are beautiful in the way he thinks you are. And I'm sure if you think about how you look at men other than your husband, even if they have things he doesn't, you are still only wanting your husband. Relating to it this way really helped me.
That said in your personal space I think is bluring the lines, work is work and should not be brought home no matter what the type of work. So it would be worse if they are in a space you and your husband share.
I hope this helped a little :)
May 22, 2010 - 5:32amThis Comment
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